Called the EAP at work...

PhoenixRising11

I have known for a little more than three weeks that my husband had an affair, and I know that the first step in dealing with that and moving on with my life is to get some counseling (individual to deal with the hot mess that I am and then maybe together to discuss the dissolution of our marriage), but until today, I had done exactly nothing about that other than verify that we have an Employee Assistance Program at work.

One of my most faithful friends gave me as a deadline today for me to call, and I picked up the phone and called HR to get the number, and then I called the EAP number and left a voicemail (because of course there was no one to answer the call). I now feel like I am going to puke because this has suddenly gotten a lot more REAL. But it's a good thing. 

pbear

I know it's scary, it's one thing to decide on something but when you have to involve other people it makes it more real. One step at a time and this is an excellent first step!

PrettyInPearls23

I think that actually making those first few steps is the most difficult part of the process. Good for you for taking the plunge!

LadyLissame

This is a good step. I have called EAP several times myself. It is a good resource and good for you for making use of it. Also, don't forget to ask for legal assisstance. With some EAP programs you can get a voucher for up to 25% off the cost of their lawyer (they have certain lawyers that participate in the program).

PrettyInPearls23

LadyLissame:

This is a good step. I have called EAP several times myself. It is a good resource and good for you for making use of it. Also, don't forget to ask for legal assisstance. With some EAP programs you can get a voucher for up to 25% off the cost of their lawyer (they have certain lawyers that participate in the program).

This.

I knew we had an EAP at my work, but didn't realize it covered a discount on lawyers until my co-worker mentioned it to me. I had just retained my attorney, but thankfully he turned out to be on the EAP panel and agreed to honor the discount. 25% off his hourly rate was a HUGE win!

PhoenixRising11

LadyLissame:

Also, don't forget to ask for legal assisstance. With some EAP programs you can get a voucher for up to 25% off the cost of their lawyer (they have certain lawyers that participate in the program).

I don't believe that this is part of our EAP. I work for a large health network, and in our personnel policies, it only says that we get three free sessions with a therapist per "event" that we need help with, and then they offer referral services. However, what I really need right now is someone to talk to, so this is good enough for me.

Thanks for the support, everyone. I really appreciate it. 

PhoenixRising11

And I have an appointment set for Friday! I will let y'all know how it goes.