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MIL...Ugh!
Two months before Christmas my husband told his side of the family that we weren't exchanging Christmas gifts this year. Christmas is always a chore with them.
Back story of this...His mother goes straight for the clearence rack and buys him the first thing she sees but it she expects outragous gifts (or atleast makes if feel that way). Two Christmas' ago we made her a gift basket up of gift certificates to places and things she likes (nails, hair, restaurants, etc) and we were told that we put no thought into it and she was very hurt by our gift. Needless to say this is why we didnt want to exchange gifts at all (that and I don't need anything).
Fast forward to Christmas afternoon at his grandma's....in front of me (not him) she begins to talk to her mother and tells her mom that my husband's brother and sister always buy her such nice things (sister got her slippers) and that atleast they aren't her ignorant child. I was so furious that I just pretended to not hear what she said...I just can't deal with this women anymore!
Re: MIL...Ugh!
Love this idea!
Easier said than done, I realize, but you know what this woman is like - start adjusting your expectations! Are you REALLY surprised at her reaction? I'm not. It's rude, and she sounds like a pill - but I'm not surprised by it at all.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Start having comments ready "that's lovely. Grandma, what did you get this year?"
or "nice! I got x from DH - I really appreciate the thought he puts into what he gets me"
She only likes the slippers because she wants to shame you for not getting her anything. Don't show her you are bothered. Be gracious and polite.
I'd have been absolutely delighted and wondered who came up with that cool idea!
I agree; do not spend any time at the holidays with her --- you could have bought her Liz Taylor's great big diamond ring and she still wouldn't have liked it. THer is no pleasing some people.
If you want to get this ingrateful, insensitve biddy a gift, tell her to give you and your H a wishlist. this way, you buy what is on the list and she can't complain.
Sure, she can complain they don't know her well enough to know what she would like without her having to write it out for them. I agree with ECB - you know who she is and what she's like. Don't bother with trying to please her, be pleasant, don't let her upset you (because she's silly anyway) and you'll come out the better person.
I understand, mine makes inappropriate comments as well. And everyone just pretends not to hear her. They are used to it - I'm not so it grates on me like crazy!! But at least you got gifts - every present I opened was "really for the both of you" - meaning for my husband. Do I want a leaf blower? A wrench...hmmm...
And their Christmas newsletter - oh - we got married in Aug and it had 2 sentences about that and then 3 whole paragraphs about my husband's brother. I feel your pain! I think the only thing to do is learn to let it go like the rest of the family does. It will take a while...but that's the only way...