non clicky poll: arguments

sarack

how often do you and h have arguments? be honest.

jennlin

never, really. sometimes we get irritated with each other and speak our mind, but there's never a back-and-forth argument.....unless it's something dumb like "turn left" "no, turn *right*!" 

Johlise

We don't really have arguments! At times we'll have in depth discussions but never arguments.

avila01

Not all that often....maybe once every 6-8 weeks? 

Kahalagurl

i have meltdown every 6weeks or so and those are really bad in that i just lash our verbally at H and he can do no right. i feel like its more of a mood swing then something that specifically bothers me.  On a daily basis, we don't really have arguments cause he backs down/off before it goes anywhere.

sarack

Kahalagurl:

i have meltdown every 6weeks or so and those are really bad in that i just lash our verbally at H and he can do no right. i feel like its more of a mood swing then something that specifically bothers me.  On a daily basis, we don't really have arguments cause he backs down/off before it goes anywhere.

i have a similar meltdown during my period.. but i usually don't say mean things/lash out.. i usually just cry.

today i went to target and the lady wouldn't help me to find workout pants in short at another store.. i called him and asked if he'd look at the renton target.. and he said, i don't know what i'd be looking for. i broke down, started crying, and said NO ONE EVER HELPS ME! then proceeded to the gym.. i'm a WRECK! lol.

PurpleTurtles

We have had a couple HUGE arguments in our relationship - actually two specifically that I can think of that were really bad. 

 Day to day, we have our little disagreements here and there because we are two pretty different people (he puts pots in the dishwasher, I think it's asinine to expect a dishwasher that's as old as we are, and that has never successfully cleaned a pot, to actually clean it this time)

Typically though, we have a good argument every other week or so (that's his estimate, I actually think it's more like once a month, about the time I'm PMSing). BUT it's always resolved before bed, which is something we pride ourselves on.  We always mean our goodnight kisses.

CDMay2006

3-4x a year, but they're almost never very heated.

BrandyL10

Never. We get irritated almost never either. We have a really good communication system and I can tell if something is bothering him before he tells me, and he can tell with me. So we end up talking it out before it would escalate. We're just always on the same page.

babyaustin725

My answer is a lot less than we use to.  Our second year of marriage was REALLY hard for many reasons.  From summer of 2007 until now, I'd say we've had maybe 2 or three real arguments. 

Nutrguru

Irritated more now than before baby...um...maybe once every couple of months? Nothing major though. Just sleep deprived irritation. Always followed up by make up sex though.

soralette

We're much more inclined to reasonable/serious discussion than actual arguments -- we have very, very similar communication styles, and we both hate arguing, so we do our damnedest to get stuff cleared up before it gets to that point.

Most of our 'arguments' turn out to be both of us saying the same darn thing in different ways and not realising it, haha. I think we might have had one actual argument ever, and even the SRS DISCUSSION stuff only happens a couple times a year, heh.

mgoss228

I don't know if I would call them arguments, but we bicker a decent amount, maybe once every 3-4 weeks.  It happens when one of us is in a pissy/tired mood and communicating/talking like a sane person becomes talking loudly/yelling at the other person.  We usually aren't angry at the same time, so the non-angry person is usually able to keep the bickering from becoming a real argument.

 I remember one argument that caused us to have a 12 hour "Break" back in the summer of 2005, but I was a 20-year old Drama Queen then, so I don't really count that.  But the 12 hour "Break" was FB official

jennlin

mgoss228:

I remember one argument that caused us to have a 12 hour "Break" back in the summer of 2005, but I was a 20-year old Drama Queen then, so I don't really count that.  But the 12 hour "Break" was FB official

lol. h and i "broke up" once...i think in 2007. he said something offensive, and i said i didn't want to put up with that kind of stuff. he apologized, but i told him it didn't matter...we were on vacation, out of the country, so i wasn't able to distance myself too much, or make it fbook official.....we went to bed, and pretended nothing happened by morning. i always remind him that we never "got back together".