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Met with attorney for 2nd time
He wanted to send a letter to H stating that I have consulted with attorney and that we want him to come in for a mediation. H and I are still living together and haven't had a discussion about how I am feeling since Octoberish, so a letter from a divorce attorney, although it would get the process started, would totally shock H as I haven't even mentioned divorce yet.
Attorney even called his assistant in and asked her opinion on this. She and I both agreed that we wouldn't want to be blindsided like that so we didn't feel it was fair to do that to H. I said things would be a lot better if H were an a$$, but he's not. Which I suppose is both good and bad.
Attorney wants to get things moving as he can see I'm not happy and says I, and H, don't deserve to be in marriage that isn't really a marriage. I told him I am meeting with my counselor again on the 18th and I am supposed to have told H by then.
I really, really, really, want to and know I need to, but it's just so hard. Once it's out there though, I know I'll feel relieved, but also scared and nervous about the whole process, custody, finances... UGH!!! Guess I'm not really looking for any advice, but thank you for listening 
Our Angel baby, lost at 6w6d on 6/10/08
Re: Met with attorney for 2nd time
Honestly just to protect yourself be sure to have papers ready to file right away after you tell H. Be sure you are prepared to take all of the things you want and have your own money.
People do strange things during divorce so you want to make sure your are protected.