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Re: Confessions/Vents
All of my friends want to go out tonight. I have such a hard time going to the bars on a Friday night because I have to get up early for work (as do most of my friends). I told them all that I am probably going back to Kzoo tonight (instead of tomorrow morning, like we're really doing) so I don't have to go out... Now I feel like a crappy friend!
Serendipity3, South Beach, Miami, FL 2012
I was thinking that we needed to do one of these posts too, so good job Shannon!
1. It rubs me the wrong way that everyone in DH's family always makes such a big deal about sending thank you notes to his aunt, like "don't forget to send her a thank you note!" or she'll be really offended. So we always do. Yet, we have never received one back from her for any of the gifts we send her. I just find it really hypocritical.
2. Sometimes I think I get too easily overwhelmed by the kids. For the most part I'm alright, but sometimes when Lily's crying and Emma's nagging me about something, and dinner needs to get cooked, and the dog needs to go out.... I just feel like steam is going to come out of my ears. It makes me feel like a bad Mom and then I get sad because I wonder if I'll be able to handle a 3rd as well some day, which is what we always planned on.
3. Emma has been waking up a lot at night lately and somehow always ends up in our bed. As much as I like to snuggle her, it's really hard to sleep with that many people in a queen bed and I don't sleep well.
Vent: I'm getting tired of DH complaining about his current position. It drives me crazy sometimes I want to yell at him and be like everyone hates their job at one point or another if your job makes you truly that miserable then lets find you a new one.
On an upside he is changing positions when we move so I only have to listen to it for a few more weeks.
Confession: My FIL wants me to shoot a gun before I leave Texas because he thinks I am missing out since I have never shot one before. I only have a little bit of time left here and the idea of driving 2 hours to go see FIL to just shoot a gun makes me want to scream. I think it is a total waste of time but it means a lot to DH so I am going to do it.
This is a little crazy, but it's really sweet that you're going to make the drive to try it out! Plus I'm sure it will be nice for you and your DH to see your FIL one more time before you leave Texas!
Serendipity3, South Beach, Miami, FL 2012
This is the only reason I am doing it. I just have no interest in guns whatsoever. I find no value in shooting one or learning how to shoot one because we will never own one.
Oh and btw I don't think you are a crappy friend for telling your friends a white lie. I have done the same before.
Confession - DH was home the whole week between xmas and new years. I was actually more stressed having him home than when I was staying home w/ DS by myself. He didn't seem to understand why I couldn't help him clean the house or do things with him and got really frustrated when DS wouldn't sleep unless he was held. He kept saying that DS didn't like him because he would cry for DH and not for me. If DH would actually spend more than 5 min trying to soothe DS before passing him back to me, he might actually learn what works too.
I learned how to shoot a gun and a rifle because it is my DH's hobby. If it's going to be in my house, I'm going to learn how to use it. I did not want to be afraid of it and if push come to shove and I will be in a position to use it, then I know exactly how to do it.
I was nervous wreck when I first went, but I find it to be the most relaxing thing ever. Also, it's a very empowering thing to learn. It relieved so much of the tension that I didn't know I had.
Having said that, I know it's not for everyone. So I'm glad that you are going and just ask to have an open mind about it.
I feel the same way. It's actually easier when DH is gone because he doesn't really help and just gets in my way... lol. That sounds so terrible. If it helps at all, he has gotten a lot better the older Emma has gotten. I think a lot of men just don't do well with the whole newborn stage.
I want candy so bad but I have none. I've been plotting where I can go to get some. I really shouldn't though.
Also, I give DH a hard time about eating out for lunch but on my once-a-month trips to Grand Rapids, I always stop at taco bell. I consider it my reward for driving 5 hours in one day.
Great advice! I would love to shoot a gun again. The last time I did was a small rifle at summer camp eons ago. I would own a gun in a heartbeat, but DH and I do not see eye-to-eye on the issue.
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Vent: I need to get a new car (which all of you know) and H is starting to look around for a new one before even getting a quote on the necessary work for the car. I feel like we should at least take it to a shop to get a price on the work (instead of basing it solely on what his dad, who is not a mechanic, says it will cost to fix). I am not saying I won't get a new car, but I don't want to rule out any possiblities
Confession: I am terrified of getting a new car. I hate change as it is, and having to learn how a new car would drive/work terrifies me. I like my car and I am very resistant to getting a new one.
I was very resistant to getting rid of my first car too (a very reliable '93 dodge dynasty that I had driven since I was 16). But last year, we bought MIL's 2008 Pontiac Vibe, and it is SO much nicer!!! I didn't even realize what I was missing driving an older car. The new one handles easier, heats up faster in the winter, actually has AC for the summer...I can't believe I resisted for so long!
So don't be afraid - I really think you'll enjoy having a newer car!
Agreed! We were raised to make a thank you note for EVERYTHING! I don?t mind doing it but I totally notice when we don?t receive a thank you note, and IMO a Fbook wall post doesn?t count?
LOL. Like people don't own and shoot guns in Michigan. LMAO
If it makes you feel better, James went thru a phase where he always cried for H. Now every time he sees H he lights up and smiles and they are good friends. Me going back to work meant H/James spend every Fri afternoon alone so that probably helped too. Maybe find a day/time to leave for a few hours and let H figure it out without you there to take him..
Confess: I only became a nanny because the only other work I could find was minimum wage and I figured being a nanny would be best during wedding planning. (So even though I love kids I totally took this job out of selfish reasons).
Vent: The dad comes home almost (if not every) day for lunch because he works so close. Usually the 3 year old will join him for watching TV and eating in the basement (30 - 45 min). And I stay upstairs with the infant. Today he's been home for 2 hours and I can hear them playing video games. It's great that they're spending time together but it's the baby's nap time so I'm literally just sitting on the couch nesting. I am looking forward to finding a new job in June! (The mom is a teacher so once school is out for the summer they won't need me. They don't know that I don't plan on coming back for the fall yet though).
And last spring I was a weekend nanny for a family of on-call doctor parents. HORRIBLE. They were home all day long and let their 4 year old (who they still spoon fed) watch Spongebob for 7 hours. I would just sit in the nursery with the door closed while the baby was napping because it was awkward sitting in the family room with them all (they weren't the best English speakers) watching Spongebob.
VENT: I'm tired of AF showing up, when will she get the hint that she's not wanted. She's up for sale, anybody want to buy her?
CONFESSION: I haven't had to cook the last two days and because of my stupid period cramps, DH said he'll pick up dinner after work. I'm super excited about that, guess AF came in handy for one thing only.
DX: MFI
Taking a break from being poked and prodded