DD slapping....

MrsChelseaP09

How did you teach your LO not to slap? Lila thinks its absolutely hilarious and even funnier when I tell her "no". It's become a part of her routine while nursing. She is only 9 1/2 months, I don't want to smack her but that seems to be what most say worked for them. Help?

k8elee03

I don't have any advice, really, I just wanted to say that I LOVE your new siggy pic! That is a gorgeous shot and a gorgeous girl. Love her bright blue eyes. I'm sending you a PM.

On the slapping, though, it sounds like it's something she'll just stop once it's no longer amusing to her. I would just firmly move her hand when she does it, and it'll probably just pass. I really don't see what good it would do to smack her, though I guess that's often a recommend solution.

Mrs.Jason.9.15.07

Macy does this from time to time and I really don't know the best way to handle it.  All I can come up with is to get at eye level, hold her wrists so she can't hit me again, and firmly say no.  I don't really think it's super effective but I hold her wrists until she no longer has the desire to slap me.  

A few times I have tried to smack her hand but I don't know, I feel that smacking her for slapping me is sending the wrong message.   

KimandRoss0115

If she's doing it while nursing, I would take her off immediately, tell her no, and let her sit for a minute.  Keep repeating until she stops slapping.  That's what your supposed to do if they bite while nursing, which Q did once.  I took him off and told him no and he never did it again.

MrsChelseaP09

SC - I smacked her hand lightly once and knew that it wasn't the right way to handle it. I felt horrible about it. 

K8 - Thank you! I am so proud of that photo. It's by far my favorite since I started shooting in manual.

Kathy - That is exactly how I felt. I have tried to hold her wrists and tell her no but, she laughs and then screams and does it again when I let go. 

Kim - Thank you. I am going to try that today. It makes total sense. Luckily, Lila has no teeth yet, so I haven't had to deal with biting. She is almost 10mos and I can't believe she's still toothless.... but I am not complaining  

MrsChelseaP09

K8, YGPMB

tashaandsage

KimandRoss0115:

If she's doing it while nursing, I would take her off immediately, tell her no, and let her sit for a minute.  Keep repeating until she stops slapping.  That's what your supposed to do if they bite while nursing, which Q did once.  I took him off and told him no and he never did it again.

Great advice. Beckett wasn't a biter. Maisy has done it a couple times but when she was pretty much dozing while nursing, so I don't think intentional. She is a pincher sometimes, so I will definitely try that next time she starts pinching me while nursing.

sara76

tashaandsage:

KimandRoss0115:

If she's doing it while nursing, I would take her off immediately, tell her no, and let her sit for a minute.  Keep repeating until she stops slapping.  That's what your supposed to do if they bite while nursing, which Q did once.  I took him off and told him no and he never did it again.

Great advice. Beckett wasn't a biter. Maisy has done it a couple times but when she was pretty much dozing while nursing, so I don't think intentional. She is a pincher sometimes, so I will definitely try that next time she starts pinching me while nursing.

The thought of biting just sent chills through my spine.  My poor nips are so sore right now (  We have been perfect at the latch for the past 2 days but I think the damage is done and they may never heal.  When she gets teeth I'm d.u.n.  She did the pinch one time and I screamed at the top of my lungs. 

MrsChelseaP09

sara76:

tashaandsage:

KimandRoss0115:

If she's doing it while nursing, I would take her off immediately, tell her no, and let her sit for a minute.  Keep repeating until she stops slapping.  That's what your supposed to do if they bite while nursing, which Q did once.  I took him off and told him no and he never did it again.

Great advice. Beckett wasn't a biter. Maisy has done it a couple times but when she was pretty much dozing while nursing, so I don't think intentional. She is a pincher sometimes, so I will definitely try that next time she starts pinching me while nursing.

The thought of biting just sent chills through my spine.  My poor nips are so sore right now (  We have been perfect at the latch for the past 2 days but I think the damage is done and they may never heal.  When she gets teeth I'm d.u.n.  She did the pinch one time and I screamed at the top of my lungs. 

Awe, it will take a few weeks but they will heal and you will forget all about it Hang in there momma! L latched perfect from the beginning and I still experienced a ton of pain. 

k8elee03

Yup, Sara, what Chelsea said. The first few weeks of breastfeeding are the hard ones, and it gets much easier. If you don't have any Lansinoh cream or whatever it is, get yourself to the store and get you some ASAP. I remember hearing that a little breastmilk helps, too. I was so desperate for relief, I would've tried nearly anything. I don't know which one of those helped, but they did.

And FWIW, Lily got her first tooth at 14 months. She was my little toothless wonder. 

MrsChelseaP09

k8elee03:

 If you don't have any Lansinoh cream or whatever it is, get yourself to the store and get you some ASAP.

Yes, this! Even if you don't think that they are sore/cracked, still continue to use it for at least the first month. It helped me so much.

k8elee03

And Chelsea, YGPMB.

MrsChelseaP09

k8elee03:

And Chelsea, YGPMB.

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Gator_Bride08

Bean is doing this. I've actually found that if I tell her no she just thinks it's funny to keep doing it. So I started completely ignoring it. It may not be the best method for all kids, but for her it works. She is trying to get a reaction out of me whether it's positive or not. Little brat. Anyway, every scenario is different. If you can figure out why she's doing it, that would be a clue to help stop it.  In my case, my kid is just evil. :P

mrs.jenRN

Gator_Bride08:

Bean is doing this. I've actually found that if I tell her no she just thinks it's funny to keep doing it. So I started completely ignoring it. It may not be the best method for all kids, but for her it works. She is trying to get a reaction out of me whether it's positive or not. Little brat. Anyway, every scenario is different. If you can figure out why she's doing it, that would be a clue to help stop it.  In my case, my kid is just evil. :P

I've heard that sometimes its best just to ignore it, too. Zoe does like to get any type of reaction out of me, but sometimes she responds when I tell her "uh-uh." I usually take her hand firmly and ignore the fact that she just slapped me. I also will stop playing with her or doing what I am doing and she gives me a look of betrayel, ha ha!  I am trying to reserve No for things that can hurt her, like the oven or, eventually, crossing the street, etc. I'm not sure if it makes any sense to do it that way, but it does in my head, lol!

SouthSeasBride

Gator_Bride08:

Bean is doing this. I've actually found that if I tell her no she just thinks it's funny to keep doing it. So I started completely ignoring it. It may not be the best method for all kids, but for her it works. She is trying to get a reaction out of me whether it's positive or not. Little brat. Anyway, every scenario is different. If you can figure out why she's doing it, that would be a clue to help stop it.  In my case, my kid is just evil. :P

This

They think being told no and being talked to sternly is hilarious.  We have a lot to work on....