Is this normal?

Jenny98002

I'm a lurker and this is my first post, but I could use some advice, and any that could be given would definitely be appreciated.

My husband and I have been married for four months, and were both virgins on our wedding night. My problem that night, and has hurt every time we've had sex. We do lots of foreplay, have used lubrication, all of the usual "fixes", but nothing has worked. I usually love the first half of sex, but dread the second. Is there anything we can do to make it not hurt, and maybe even pleasurable?

girlygirl8306

are you sure he's putting it in the right hole? LOL, just kidding....but seriously though, I would try astroglide, it's a really good lube, a little more expensive but it works well, I know how it is to be sensitive. Also have him go down on you before you have intercourse. That helps.

Mrs.Rad888

Do whatever it takes for you to have an orgasm before trying penetration. That seems to "soften" the walls of your vagina a bit.

Libellulidae333

I know it took quite a while after my first time for it to start feeling good.  I use to wonder what was so damn good about sex, because for me it was painful all the time.  It hurt for months! So it is normal, and it does get better.

cmeinla

Have you talked to your Obgyn about this?  Because there are some medical conditions that can make it painful to have sex.  If the Astroglide doesn't work maybe schedule an appointment, and just get checked.

Jenny98002

Awesome. Thanks for the advice. I have a gyno appt. in a couple of months, and if these tips don't work, I'll ask her what's up.

 Thanks again! 

Orantham

When I asked my gynecologist about this same problem, he told me one thing: relax.

If you "dread" sex and anticipate it being painful, you'll tense up and it will hurt. Relax. Don't expect it to hurt before anything's even happened. One other thing you might want to try is a position that puts you in control, like being on top. You can go as slowly as you like, and get used to the feeling of it on your own time, which will make you no longer fear the pain of sex.

This was my same situation back when I first lost my virginity; nothing was wrong with me physically, I was just psyching myself out.

By all means, though, do ask your gynecologist just to make sure nothing serious is wrong.

lifeguard

1st half ???

 I was sore after sex until swimming season started. Put two and two together and realized when I started shaving most of the scruff off down there. The friction and pain from sex went away. 

MLC613

Definitely try to relax! Light candles and enjoy being each other! Try not to think of how bad it's going to hurt or how anxious you are just how good it feels, etc. Tell him what you like and don't like! Have you tried a lot of dirty talk? Or watching a movie together while fooling around?? Also try some toys! Sometimes after I've been on my period and we have sex it hurts...so I kind of know what you're going through. Just relax and enjoy being together! GOOD LUCK!!