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Poll: soul mates
Do you believe in soul mates and/or that you and your DH were meant to be together?
Re: Poll: soul mates
No. I don't believe in any kind of predestined events. I believe my DH and I are together because of circumstances that led us to meet at a specific time in each of our lives and our own hard work to make the relationship thrive since then.
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So you don't think that the set of circumstances could have been fated to happen?
I don't really know what I believe. I mean, I've heard some pretty amazing stories about how people meet up and then years later come together though some crazy coincidences that make me think MUST be fate. But, I've also heard stories that make me think the opposite. All I know is that I'm very happy being with him so I don't really care which it is : )
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I don't particularly believe in soul mates.
That being said I really do believe that DH and I were meant to be together, which is why we met the way we did.
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I believe people are drawn together at certain points in their lives for certain purposes that we/they most likely don't understand at the time. Whether or not they are meant to be together for a lifetime or a few years, or even a few months. Life is a learning experience and every relationship is a part of that.
I believe that my DH and I are meant to be together. There are to many things in my past that led to my learning and growing that brought me to the point that I was ready for this relationship with him.
But I also believe that my XH were meant to be together for the time that we were together. Even though that marriage ended in divorce (and it was bitter on his side) I believe it was meant to happen the way that it did. I learned things from it that made me a better person today.
Agreed.
We meet lots of people in unusual and serendipitous ways. To me, that doesn't mean that it was somehow meant to be. It seems like superimposing meaning on something after the fact. If I hadn't decided to change my Italian class in college at the last minute, I never would have met DH. I'm happy I did, but I don't think it was fate
I guess I think of love in practical terms. I've always thought a big part of what brings people together is chemicals/hormones and personality traits. Once you decide that you are attracted to someone AND you like hanging out with them, the rest is deciding to commit to that person and working to make your relationship work. I love DH and I'm very happy with him, I truly think we will be together forever. But if for some reason our marriage ended, I think there is a good chance I could be love and be happy with someone else too.
I'm sure that sounds really cold, but I swear I'm a romantic person
I just think that for every "we went to the same preschool, then met 20 years later and fell in love" story, there are 10 people who met in a bar or got matched on a dating site.
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No, I don't think that. I can see why people would be tempted to want to believe that, because it gives life this kind of meaning/order and could be comforting maybe. But I just believe all situations are essentially random and we choose to make order out of the parts we focus on ie.: meeting someone is random but it's our choice to committ to them and continue with that committment as life progresses.
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This exactly. I totally agree.
But I still go through majorly difficult times when I question our relationship. DH and I are VERY different people, with VERY different priorities. We work hard to stay together.
Once, we were fighting in the car and I was going on and on, listing faults and all that, when I suddenly said, "I want this to work!" And DH said with a smile, "I do too!" I think that desire, especially when said aloud to each other, can make a big difference.
Even soulmates need to work to be together.
Nope, I don't believe in soulmates. I think that there are people that you match well with in certain parts in your life, and you have to work to keep matching with that person in other parts of your life. Had I not met DH, I would have found someone else that I fell in love with and married, and probably been happy.
When I was 16 and in luuurve I did. Now, no.
I'd call that religion. And I don't buy it.
Nest ate my post, so here it is again. My first answer was better....sigh...
Honestly, I find this to be an interesting question. I call DH my favourite person and he is my perfect match. This is based on our individual and collective goals based on what we want to achieve out of life. So yes, I would call him my soul mate. However, I do not believe that we are each other's only soul mate for which we are destined to be with in order to have a happy and fulfilled life.
I believe that we chose to be soul mates and this is based on our love and respect for each other and our relationship. Each day we actively demonstrate that love and respect, and it is during the rough patches, as opposed to the puppies and rainbow periods that I know we are each other's soul mates by choice. I believe that our active decision to work towards being soul mates, so it speak, makes us more so soul mates than two people who believe they are destined to be together, but are unwilling to take the necessary steps to achieve a successful relationship.
I would chose to have become soul mates over time based on our actions towards one another and our relationship as opposed to a belief that is person is the 'one and only one'. I do hope that this makes sense.
From my personal point of view, either soulmates don't exist or, withing these 7 billion people on earth we have a bunch of soulmates. If by soulmates you mean that 1 person I'm destined to meet and spend the rest of my life with and all will be amazing with puppies and rainbows and glitterfarts (oh I'm loving the glitterfats!) than definitely no!
DH and I met years before we got together, he was involved with someone else and if she hadn't cheated, I'm pretty sure they'd still be together. We happened to run into each other again at a point in our lives that we were both single. Was that destiny? I doubt it. Especially since after we got together we made very conscious decision of us staying together, not destiny, just choice. We ran into each other online, that was the only 'chance' thing in there, after that we decided to meet up in person, we decided to go out to dinner, we decided to hang out more, we decided to start a relationship. Choice.
If the term soulmates would refer to someone you can just share everything with, someone who knows what you're thinking before you're saying it, someone who won't judge you, ever, but will tell you their opinion. Yeah, totally believe those people exist. I have about 5 or 6 in my life ATM, might become more as I meet new people. I call them my closest friends and yes, DH is one of them. But I think we find those people through common interests and/or places we're at/things we do at some point in our lives, rather than us 'having to have met'.
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If soul mates were true, then down the line someone jacked it up by marrying the wrong person, which means that the person they should have married may have also married the wrong person, because they couldn't be married to the person they should have been with and then you have this domino effect. So, no.
But of all of the riffraff I have dated, DH is by far the best suited for me. If we met when we were 22 or 23 tens years before we actually met we would have never hooked up.
Absolutely not. I'm willing to bet there are hundreds (if not thousands) of people out there that I could have a sustainable long-term relationship with, given the right circumstances. For me, it's simply about identifying the characteristics that are most important to me and choosing accordingly.
The only time I've met someone that I ever really felt like we were "meant to be together," it was a guy I met when I was a starry-eyed college student who would have been an absolutely terrible match for me. I literally shudder to imagine what my life would be like if we'd ended up together.
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Hahaha. That was excellent! Thanks for sharing.
I think I love you.
AMAZED.
I LOVE this guy, DH and I just finished watching his show at the Royal Albert with the orchestra.