Parents wanting to stay at my house for a visit...

ShannersLA

+SMACE+:

I would let them stay, they can sleep on the floor, have them bring a sleeping bag. 

If you knew $$ was tight (since your mother spends her money on other things) and made a huge issue out of them coming, I dont see why you're surprised that they "have no money" for a hotel and need a place to stay.

If you want your parents there, you'll have to sacrifice comfort for a few days. If not, you cannot complain if they say they can't come due to lack of funds.

Good luck. 

Ditto this.

You want your parents to be more "involved", so by making the 10hr trip, that's them being proactive.  By turning them away from staying w/you when you know they don't have the wiggle room in their budget for hotel costs, this puts them in a tough & awkward position.  It will upset them because they will feel that they have failed you & you will be upset if they don't come seeing that as putting forth no effort. 

Let's face it, when you are hosting a party & you invite out-of-town family/friends, the possibility of your home becoming an "Inn" for that period of time should be assumed unless your guests opt not to stay with you or make their own arrangements.

I feel your frustration with the cramped space, but, in a way, you did ask for this.

lyrical

kellbell1919:

jbdec28:

I struggle with this a lot:  His accident and being there for him and providing things I can't afford.  

I flew to see him in the hospital and we definitely couldn't afford it.  It maxed my CC and I still haven't been able to pay it off.  My mom showed me all the clothes and purses she bought while in the city and never once offered to help with my ticket.

They've said they would visit for Thanksgiving and Christmas and backed out both times.  I had to cry on the phone for my mom to understand it was important for her to be at my DD 1st bday.  She never commits but constantly says how much they miss us.  Then she says they have no money, then she tells me about her new hair do, her new outfit, or her new purse.  If she can afford all that why can't they afford a hotel room?

I sound and feel like a selfish teenager but I also feel like I'm being walked all over and emotionally abused.

ETA: I meant to quote PB and Mofo

You know they can't afford a hotel room, where did you think they would stay?

This. You can't have it both ways. If you're crying on the phone to manipulate them into coming to the party (which is how it reads when you say you "had to cry" to make them understand it was important to come), and you know they're short on cash due to a major accident, the least you can do is offer them your couch.