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kind of a s/o Pre-nups?
1) Did you have a pre-nup?
2) If you get married again, would you get a pre-nup?
Re: kind of a s/o Pre-nups?
1) No pre-nup here.
2) Yes. I don't think I would marry again without one. I want to protect my assets (business) and I think I want a morality/adultery clause as well. Maybe I'm naive?
1. No, XH mentioned wanting to draw one up before we were married - he was established in his job, had a side business & a house. I had just graduated college and had nothing. But, for some reason he changed his mind and never did it. When I left him I took what I came with and had ZERO interested in any of his assets. His house = WAY underwater, credit card debt up the wazoo, side business was failing & he had never started a retirement fund..so really, there wasn't anything for us to split.
2. No. I don't see a need for it in my current relationship and I have nothing of extreme value I'd want to protect if were were to marry/divorce.
1. Nope.
2. I'd get one if I had kids, my own business, or considerable assets.
1. nope.
2. If I ever did get married, yes I would want one.... just as much to protect my business as to protect this assets. A marriage is essentially a business contract, legally speaking.
1. No
2. Only if I had something to protect (assets, business)
1. No, I didn't.
2. I would consider it but at the current time I don't have much to protect.
1. No, I didn't
2. I think I will if I ever get married again. I'd like to make sure my house is my house and my kids are okay in the deal.
1. no, I didn't, but if we had stayed married a little longer, it could have become super complicated. XH's parents own a number of businesses and properties that he and i were due to inherit. XFIL passed away before we split, and his mother is elderly. We had given them a LOT of money for the businesses and properties, and I would not be satisfied walking away without any of it if she passed while we were together. I'm actually a little peeved that I still left with nothing, but XMIL is still alive and he has not inherited anything yet. was that confusing enough?
2. probably, especially to protect my retirement and pension. If I own a house again, then for sure.
1. No.
2. Yes. BF and I have already started talking about what we want in the prenup when it's time. He has a house and I have a kid. We both stand to inherit a decent amount at some point (probably pretty similar amounts for each of us). We have actually talked about doing a "roommate prenup" that would have a lot of similar things in it and could then be converted into a marital prenup when it is time.
1) No
2) Yes
1. Nope
2. Nope. I don't have anything anyone would want & the only things I have that are valuable to me are my pets and my tri bike. My tri bike is fitted for me and so is everything involved with it, so no one would want that either.
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.