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Need a pick me up... stressful weekend!
I've not slept much over the last couple of days with worry and stress...
Friday afternoon I had an appointment to get a mole checked out be the dermatology department in the hospital. They decided it needed to be removed, which I had figured they would say, but then they start talking about melanomas (sp?) and biopsy and worse case scenarios... after saying try not to worry about this. And then one dr suggests taking it out in 2 weeks time, but the other (more senior) says no, sooner... could have taken it out then if my appointment was earlier. Anyway, its coming out tomorrow morning instead now and I've been worrying all weekend. And yesterday I kept looking at N and worrying about not seeing her grow up - ridiculous, I know...
Then last night, my SIL called over after sending us a text asking could she call over for a chat. Yes, this is the one who got a puppy and minds N during the week. Except, she told us that she won't be able to continue minding N.
Great. So we have to find either another childminder or a creche as soon as possible. She'll keep minding her until we are sorted and if we need an emergency backup (if N is refused entry to the creche cos of illness for example) further down the road... But I really didn't need this right now...
Anyone any good news stories?
Re: Need a pick me up... stressful weekend!
Sorry! No good news stories here (I guess no news is good news) but I am sending you a lot of healthy vibes.
GL with finding a new childminder.
Oh honey, I can imagine how stressed you are right now! I had the same feelings when I was in the hospital recently and cancer was on the table - your only thoughts are for your kids growing up. It's so hard to sit there and think like that, but impossible not to.
Okay, most cancers now are treatable, manageable and curable, except for lung cancer and I think bone cancer, those are the really bad ones. Anything else and you're strong, you can deal with it! Medical advances are outstanding and improving every day - if it is what you are dreading you'll be able to get through it.
Also, my experience at hospitals in the UK ( I know you're not in the UK, but you're in a very similar country ) is different from N. America where the first thing they jump to is the worst case scenario. My boss' infant son nearly died and was sick in the hospital for weeks at only 10 weeks old - they were throwing around things like brain tumours, etc. Turns out he was allergic to milk.
With me they were immediately tossing things around like cancer, shogrins (sp?) and the wonderful "unknown autoimmune disease". Out of that we got sarcoidosis which still isn't great, but it's certainly not cancer or shogrins or Tofumonkey Syndrome!
So try to relax, they're being cautious and a bit overly alarmist but for now it's just a mole that you're having removed and checked out and if it's cancer you can totally deal with that.
And your childminder sucks.
Chronically hilarious - you'll split your stitches!
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Sounds like you did have a rough weekend. I know it's advice that's hard to follow, but do try not to worry too much about the mole. Right now it's out of your hands.
And oh no! about your SIL. What's her reason for not being able to watch N anymore? I hope you're able to find a good replacement soon. I'm sure it's hard to find someone you'll be able to trust as much as family, but those kinds of great providers are out there.
No real good news stories here. 67 days until DH's paternity leave starts...
Thanks for the sensible pep talk Tofu... I know they are taking precautions, "just in case".
SIL can't mind N anymore as she didn't realise she would be so tied to the house (because N naps for 2hrs in the middle of the day) and not be able to meet up with her friends. Also she doesn't think she's getting to spend enough time with her youngest (who is 2 1/2). She has 4 kids. Apparently she and my brother discussed it over Christmas and decided on this. I can understand where she's coming from about her son, but really, we're paying her to do a job, she's not doing us a favour...
And she doesn't know about the mole thing - we haven't told anyone about it so they don't worry unnecessarily...
I'll just focus on work today and try not to think about anything
Good luck tomorrow!
Sorry you had such a rough weekend. I hope you find someone to keep N !
Hugs!
Chronically hilarious - you'll split your stitches!
I wrote a book! Bucket list CHECK!
http://notesfortheirtherapist.blogspot.co.uk
Sounds like a terrible weekend. I'm sure the docs are just taking precautions, but I'm sending you some healthy vibes anyway.
I'm sorry to hear about your SIL. She should have known babies nap during the day! Come on, she has four of her own! Good luck finding someone new.
It certainly isn't ridiculous for you to be worried, it's the normal response. I have so many moles and have been advised to get checked every 6 months. The last doctor in the states that I went to pretty much told me it's not "if" I get cancer, but "when". Thanks for your vote of confidence doc! The one I went to here said that was a completely ridiculous thing for that doctor to have said to me. I was constantly worried before him, but now I worry that much more. Hopefully all will be fine as both my dad and I have had multiple removed and they have all ended up normal. Sending you lots of healthy vibes.
I'm sorry about your SIL, that was poor planning on her part.
As for a good news story, I finally got the straps adjusted right in baby's bouncy seat and now she doesn't slump over like the Hunchback! (small accomplishment, but she likes the chair!) Also, I bought some good chocolate chip cookies yesterday and am very much looking forward to eating them today.
Isn't it great when they like the bouncy chair! It means you can do stuff, like have a shower... This made me smile!
Enjoy the cookies...
Thanks everyone for the well wishes!
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I think it is actually a good thing to not have your SIL as your childminder. It's great to have a relative like her as a back-up but as a full-time carer it might be too much family involvement.
Good luck with everything! Extra Kimberleys and Mikados for you