Gifts from exes

PAGAS

Do you keep them?  What about jewelry in particular?

odear

I still have some.  I need to try and sell some of the silver Tiffany stuff.  I sold two rings on Ebay (sapphire and pearl).  I gave the engagement ring back

darva

I did not get rid of them or give them back (except the engagement ring, he can have that crap. :P) simply because we had a daughter together and one day I can pass them on to her.  They mean nothing to me now, but they'll mean something to her.  Otherwise, I'd have gotten rid of them. 

ellkaysmom

I don't have anything left... I either sold it, gave it away, or threw it out, depending on its value.

houstonkdw

If it has value (even personal) I keep it.  Heck, I am about to have a lot of stuff from my soon-to-be ex-husband.  I am keeping my watches, diamond earrings, diamond necklace but I admit I am not sure what to do with my wedding ring.  I for sure want to keep the center stone for either my son to have or my daughter since it was their Father who bought it. 

startingover2010

I've been torn about this lately.  I have some old jewelry that XH gave me, and I think I'm going to try to sell the gold.  The pieces that I'm thinking about getting rid of were given to me in high school, and I probably haven't worn since college (ie a matching ring and necklace with a heart shaped lab created ruby in the center of each).  I still have the e-ring, upgrade ring,  and wedding band.  Not sure what to do with those.

Belle101781

I have them in an old jewelry box. Not sure if they are of value. Nothing gold, diamond or pearl. Most of it is from Movado. Not sure how popular that is anymore.

We didn't have kids together so not passing them down to any of my future kids. Definitely need to have them cleaned and find out what the value is on them. They don't mean anything to me, even if I wore them now, which I don't.

They are all great pieces and I would most likely wear them again. I'm not too concerned who they came from. They are mine to keep forever if I choose.

FutureMrsJW

Some yes, some no.  It depends on the ex too.  I have sold a few things on ebay.  I couldn't get rid of them fast enough.  I still have a watch and a pair of diamond studs that I wear from time to time.  I also have a beautiful diamond bracelet, that I doubt I will ever part with.  All of the items I've kept are from my last ex, and it was an amicable break.

PineappleLane

i have my enagement ring/wedding band. somewhere in a drawer. i plan to sell them just haven't gotten around to it.

 

AmyDrinkie

I kept (and still wear/use) what I liked and gave away what I didn't.  H doesn't know what I own that's a gift from an ex.

miss67c

I still have some stuff. I've gotten rid of some items... but some I do keep.

CareBear01

Hahahahahaha....that would mean that I would have actually had to have an ex that was financially stable enough to give me anything of value. I'm still laughing...  ;-)  

mom2ll

I gave the engagement ring back (I probably should have kept it!). 

I recently went through and pulled out all the gold.  I plan to see what I can get for it.  Most if it is small stuff that isn't anything special. 

SigmundsGirl

CareBear01:

Hahahahahaha....that would mean that I would have actually had to have an ex that was financially stable enough to give me anything of value. I'm still laughing...  ;-)  

This is exactly what I was thinking. I never recieved anything worth thinking twice about.

melrrr

SigmundsGirl:

CareBear01:

Hahahahahaha....that would mean that I would have actually had to have an ex that was financially stable enough to give me anything of value. I'm still laughing...  ;-)  

This is exactly what I was thinking. I never recieved anything worth thinking twice about.

I got rid of the cat scratcher, slippers and lampe Berger years ago. That was the most awesome Christmas ever! Other than that I think I have a pair of silver earrings and a pendant. I didn't date many guys that were gift givers.  

PAGAS

I wasn't meaning only things of high monetary value.  DH was pissy about a random silver ring I had in a cupholder of my car, I mean really?  We have been married nearly 7 years.

TexasHarmony

I sold the jewelry, what little there was.

I still have some random stuff.  My most significant ex wanted me to collect Snow Babies, so he got me some.  I think I may have them.  I'll give them to A if she wants them.  He also gave me a nice leather jacket that I still have.  I will wear it when it fits again.  I love that thing.

DH didn't have much from exes.  I think a watch that I liked that finally broke.  He did have a pair of "I love you" boxers that went straight in the trash.

 

SigmundsGirl

I think the only thing I have left is a pair of black pants from J. Crew. I keep them around so I can see if I am anywhere close to the size I was in college. Styles change so much it is hard to go by size alone. Then again, I haven't been able to wear these for about 4 years and since having a baby my shape has changed. Maybe it is time to get rid of them. I like my Ann Taylor ones so much better.

pagas - I'm sure it is frustrating for you, but I think it is kinda sweet. Probably because I'm not the one dealing with it. Tell him this is an opportunity to get you an ever better ring to replace it. (Not necessarily an expensive ring, just something that would replace it and be meaningful to him.)

PAGAS

SigmundsGirl:

pagas - I'm sure it is frustrating for you, but I think it is kinda sweet. Probably because I'm not the one dealing with it. Tell him this is an opportunity to get you an ever better ring to replace it. (Not necessarily an expensive ring, just something that would replace it and be meaningful to him.)

I suggested this, he said the last ring he was ever going to get me was my wedding ring...so I guess I am supposed to go ringless except for that. 

AmyDrinkie

Sounds like he's kiiiiiiiinda being a ***.  Why does he even care where you got a random silver ring, and why does he think he's off the hook for buying rings as gifts just b/c he already gave you one?

rayskit10

I guess I've dated losers because the only pieces of jewelry I have are a ring and a bracelet, both are from James Avery. I have kept them, but not for any special reason. I don't wear them and am basically pretty neutral about their existence.

michellebelle

SigmundsGirl:

CareBear01:

Hahahahahaha....that would mean that I would have actually had to have an ex that was financially stable enough to give me anything of value. I'm still laughing...  ;-)  

This is exactly what I was thinking. I never recieved anything worth thinking twice about.

This.

I guess I have kept stuff - the When Harry Met Sally and Sleepless In Seattle Box set of VHS tapes is still cluttering my movie collection, and DH likes the George Straight box collection.

I know my biggest love gave me Christmas gifts but I'll be damned if I can remember a single one, so none must have been sentimental enough to worry about keeping.

april16

I have kept all with the exception of my engagement ring from my ex fiance b/c he was bat *** crazy!!

aprilprincess

CareBear01:

Hahahahahaha....that would mean that I would have actually had to have an ex that was financially stable enough to give me anything of value. I'm still laughing...  ;-)  

I kind of fall in this category. My ex gave me an engagement ring that cost about $300. I still have it somewhere in the attic. I offered to send it back to him a year or two ago and he gave me this line about how our time together was special and he remembers it fondly blah blah blah. I may donate it somewhere if I find it again.

I have other stuff from high school boyfriends. DH may or may not know but I know I mentioned one thing and he doesn't care. The only thing that has sentimental value is a box I actually use in my bathroom on the counter. I dated that guy on and off for 10 years, it has sentimental value but I use it more because I just like it. Occasionally I remember it's from him and I can't believe I still have it.

txbootsy

Yes I keep my gifts.

They are gifts, not relationships, and i like them! haha

melrrr

What about the other way around? The only thing rrr ever pointed out as being from an ex was a pair of crystal wine glasses that she'd bought at Marshall's. He'd thought it was so random and they broke up a short while after. I didn't like them but neither did he, so we gave them to good will

rayskit10

melrrr:

What about the other way around? The only thing rrr ever pointed out as being from an ex was a pair of crystal wine glasses that she'd bought at Marshall's. He'd thought it was so random and they broke up a short while after. I didn't like them but neither did he, so we gave them to good will

When DH got divorced, he was so ready to get rid of everything. His ex was cheap and had bad taste, so you can imagine. The only thing he kept from the relationship- both things she gave as gifts and things they bought when married- where a pair of Tiffany martini glasses that he had actually bought as a housewarming gift to himself when they moved in to their apartment. They have since broken.

opallover

I gave Mel all the gold and the tiffany stuff - and I never accepted the e-ring.

PAGAS

opallover:

I gave Mel all the gold and the tiffany stuff - and I never accepted the e-ring.

This is Tiffany stuff from you know who...

CallMeKel

txbootsy:

Yes I keep my gifts.

They are gifts, not relationships, and i like them! haha

This!

And my DH couldn't care less. He is the least jealous person I have ever met.

04JaxBride

the only one i really dated long enough to have received real gifts from was my high school boyfriend (we dated until i was about 21).  i had 2 rings, a bracelet, and earrings that i wore all the time.  i LOVED them, and the last time we were together i got so incredibly mad at him (he was treating me ridiculously and just being an all-around idiot) and couldn't even stand to be wearing that stuff.  it's like it was burning my skin, lol.

i took it all off, ripped the bracelet off, threw it at him, stormed out, and drove back to houston.

: )  it felt wonderful.  

 

DH really only had gifty things from his ex that are kid-related.  i was taking some gold stuff to sell a while back, and he asked if i would take his wedding ring from the previous marriage.  NO PROBLEMO.