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Just found out an old friend is now a 'backyard breeder'...
Ugh! She just posted on FB today that her female pit is pregnant w 'at least 7 pure bred pit puppies' and is selling them for 'only $500 each!' ... She has had the female pit and the male pit (the father) for well over a year now. No f'ing clue why they weren't neutered.
I want to write on her wall that she's part of the reason why shelters have to exist, and go off on a tangent about how she should have had her dogs neutered (not show/service dogs).
But I feel that could start a heated argument. Anyone have any suggestions on how to approach this? There's no way I'm going to not say anything and just let it slide. I would just prefer to say something a little more tactful than what I'm actually thinking. What about something along the lines of 'did you know your dogs weren't neutered? My shelter takes in dogs and puppies all the time, and 7 will be really hard to care for, but we have foster parents who would be more than willing to help out, let me know if you want any more info'.
Does that sound ok???
Re: Just found out an old friend is now a 'backyard breeder'...
Ahhh, you're better than I am. I can't say anything to the person on my FB who backyard breeds. I just can't think of a nice thing to say, so I have to hide her posts. It makes me so angry.
EDIT: It sounds fine to me. Kind of like saying "NEUTER AND SPAY YOUR FREAKIN' DOGS" without actually saying it.
She's not going to respond to turning them over to a shelter if she's looking to make a profit off them, but it might still at least be an opening.
I'm too pissed off about other things already today to really approach this with anything tactful to contribute. I hope some others have good advice for how to school this selfish idiot.
I hope her dog makes it through the pregnancy without complications, or she's going to learn really fast why not just anyone should be breeding.
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Oh.. I totally know this. There's no way she'll bring them to my shelter since there's the possibility of making money. I just thought it would be some sort of way to tell her my feelings without sounding super b*tchy, which is how I actually want to sound. I, too, hope the best for her female... and I hope that they decide to spay and neuter both dogs after this.
It depends, would you be sad if she defriended you?
Honestly, this makes my blood boil. I'm not a fan of backyard breeding in general, but pitbull breeding makes me want to murder someone. SO MANY adorable pittie puppies are PTS every.single.day. She is literally murdering puppies by doing this. I hate her. WTF.
Ok, calming down a bit...
I would probably link to a petfinder search result for baby pitbulls and then post the link saying, "Many people aren't aware so I thought I'd share... did you know that XXXX number of pitbull puppies are currently homeless on Petfinder? That doesn't even show the true number out there because many shelters are so full they euthanize before the pups can even make the adoption list. I'm sure you bred with the best of intentions, but I hope you take all of this into account and consider spaying and neutering your dogs, which will literally save lives."
I like this one! Slightly snarky, but unfortunately true.
I think treating it like you're genuinely concerned about how she's going to handle this "accident" and prevent it from happening again in a way that makes what really happened (she purposely bred two pit bulls for profit) sound so far-fetched it never even occurred to you that she would do such a thing is a great, subtle way to get the point across so your original idea of "Did you not know? How can I make sure these dogs are cared for?" would work great.
I don't know if I'm expressing myself clearly. I hope that makes sense.
Husbands should be like Kleenex: Soft, strong, and disposable.
I like this. I think if the OP acts like it was an accident, the FB poster will say "Silly OP! I bred them on purpose! Do you want to pay $500 for one of my puppies?" This addresses the fact that is was purposeful, difuses the situation by acknowledging that the FB posting might have had good intentions, and attempts to educated. Plus anyone seeing the FB post is going to see how many free Pitbulls there are on petfinder. Maybe even include a link.
This, plus "hopefully some of the profit you make off your puppies can be used to spay and neuter the mom and dad. I'd hate for them to be at a higher risk for reproductive cancers because they weren't altered".
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I'd probably act confused. "Oh... don't you have homes lined up already? My friend who's a breeder said she researches families and compiles a waiting list before breeding the dogs." And then further ask about genetic tests she's done and stuff.
Actually, I'd really want to say, "Thanks for contributing to pet overpopulation, which results in the euthanizing of millions of animals like you. I hope all the owners you find are responsible, but probably not. So the puppies will probably end up in a shelter someday anyway." I wouldn't have the cajones to say it, though.
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THIS.
And I'd also add in another line about low-cost spay/neuter options for her adult dogs. Maybe something like "I hope you will consider getting your dogs spayed and neutered now - there are lots of options out there including low-cost clinics".