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T&Ps please...a bit more of How the hell?!

I am such a weird person sometimes.  I booked an appointment yesterday for the first available gynecologist in the area.  Fortunately, the doctor I got is well-recommended and well-qualified (yay for random cancellations).

One of the main reasons I'm going (other than just needing to go anyway) is to get tested for STDs.  S, bless him, brought this up recently, asking me if I'd been tested since my marriage (we have not yet slept together).  

I felt like an idiot admitting that I hadn't, and that quite frankly, the thought had never crossed my mind, since I'd only ever slept with XH.  S was quick to point out that men who hit and abuse their wives aren't exactly the most moral people, so it's best to know if he exposed me to anything now.  S thought it was almost obvious that I wouldn't think to get tested.  After all, if I'd only ever slept with one person and assumed he was faithful (which I am just recently, and for good reason, having doubts about), the thought of being exposed to anything would never cross my mind.  It makes me angry thinking that I could have been exposed to something by my idiot XH.

Also, since booking the appointment, I've been having a few flashbacks of the assault.  The idea of someone touching me there (I'm barely okay being intimate with S, and that's only because I trust that man) almost makes me hyperventilate.  I'm booking an appointment with a counselor as well, because all of this is making me deal with the assault in a way I've been able to avoid doing for the past two years.

 All of this rambling post to say: T&Ps please?  The appointment is next Wednesday, and I'm nervous as hell for several reasons. 

Re: T&Ps please...a bit more of How the hell?!

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