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If you do time out, how??
OK, tell me how you do this?? I try the step thing for time-out, but, Alana just won't stay there. She'll sit for 5 seconds and then just get up. I've tried actually sitting there and holding her, but, then it becomes more about the battle to stay sitting and not about thinking about what she did.
I've seen other kids be put in time out and they cry but they actually stay there! But, Alana is a very strong-willed child and just gets up.
Any suggestions?
Re: If you do time out, how??
Oh, I'm not holding her lovingly! I'm sitting on the floor in front of her, physically holding her down from getting up! And, the whole time, she's trying to kiss and hug me, while screaming and crying, because she knows that's how we end timeout. So, yeah, it just isn't working. I've started the taking things away tactic, but, she seems to be over it in about 6 seconds. But, I'm going to keep trying that because at least I have control over that, you know, and she's only 2 and I'm sure it will become more impactful as she gets older.
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I do it the way SuperNanny did it and it really seems to work, lol!
Put them in TO for 1 minute per year. Tell them why you're putting them there. If she gets up, just walk her back...over and over again without saying anything. Usually after 3-4 times my kids stay and now they even stay the first time often. Once time is up, repeat again why they were put in TO, give them a hug, make them apologize and be done.
old school is the way to go!
and consistency - now if I tell Alexis she needs timeout she actually gets up and goes to sit in the middle of the hallway, lol.
At first I used to put the kitchen chair in the corner (with her booster seat) and strap her in. It was the only way to keep her in one place. I tell her why she's there and say something like "you need to think about this for 2 minutes". Then I'd walk over and set the timer on the microwave.
Eventually that morphed into just sitting on a regular chair, no booster. But then she was screwing around on the chair so now she stands in the corner.
And she knows that if she messes around - wipes boogers on the wall, scratches at the paint with her fingernails, walks away, etc. - that I'll add more time to the timer. It's very visible when I do it and I say "because you're doing xyz now you have to stand there longer" then I add more time. She can see me with the timer and can hear the beeps and it really pisses her off. Usually I only have to do that once before she straightens up and does her time out.
Good luck - it's hard at 2 because they are just learning about time out. But be consistent and she'll catch on quickly. Oh, and I agree that sometimes putting toys in time out is more effective.
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This is what we do, we put her in the corner facing the wall and have been since we started time outs. Then I tell her she has to tell me what she did and say she is sorry. Now when she does something she knows she wasn't supposed to do she puts herself in the corner lol. But honestly the other day she defied me and would not go in the corner and was laughing so I turned off the lights, threw away what was left of the dinner she kept getting up from and made her go to bed early.
Brandon is put in our guest room, which is on the first floor, and the door gets shut. There's nothing in there but a bed. This is the only way we can get him to stay in a time out.
Carys is either placed in a chair, facing the wall (laughing her way through the entire time out) or put in her crib, away from all of us, for about 4 minutes. She doesn't like the crib time out, but we use it when she bites or purposely hurts someone.
This. Now that she is more verbal, we ask her to repeat what she did wrong to end up in the time out.
We can thank daycare for teaching her stay in the chair. She had a teacher last year that LOVED time outs - grrrrrrrr!
This is what I do, too. But, Norah is just starting to get what it means to be in time out. She's 2 years 3 months and she has seen her brother in time out. Aidan was closer to 2.5 or 3 before he really "got it".
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