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Apples (probably going to end up long)
apples09:
I'm on click away from sending an email that may indeed sever a 20 year friendship.
Simply because I cannot deal with the fact that this friend is a Mombie and forgot she existed before her child arrived
Part of me wants to say "don't do it," but the other part of me fully supports you.
I have a friend that I have also been friends with for about 20 years. (The "how do I word this" post lady. She is a HUGE mombie and I went a long time without seeing her or talking to her much. I could NOT relate to her and she could NOT relate to me.
She was the reason I joined this board in the first place. She didn't understand (and got mad at me) for not wanting to go camping with her and her newborn or go to all the events involving kids over. As her BFF I probably should have gone to at least the 1st birthday (Or bought a gift) 
but I didn't. I just don't like to be around kids.They're (st)icky!
She has since had her 2nd (and last) child and I am not entirely sure what happened, but she is different. We are starting to "come back around" and find our friendship again. Yes, we grew apart. Yes, she annoyed the hell out of me (and I her.) Yes I thought about sending similar emails risking our friendship.
In hindsight, I am so glad I did not. Like I said, we were not close for many years. We only really stayed connected through mutual friends. But our friendship survived that and I know she will be a part of my life forever. And that makes me very, very happy.
I had forgotten just how wonderful she was and only focused on how much of a mombie she was being. It's no excuse to treat friends poorly when you procreate, but we all make mistakes in life. Some are larger than others.
I fear that sending the email may permanently end the friendship, instead of just putting it on hold.
Re: Apples (probably going to end up long)
*squeeze*
Jenny, you are a good friend. Period.
AWWWW!!! Sorry for the late response- work got slammed, but thank you for your words. There is a reason I have not hit "send" yet and it's becuase i still can't find the words that I think I want to and need to say. It's obviously a LOT more complicated than I can even explain on here, and I really do think I just want to find a way to put the friendship on hold, rather than completely sever it, and it's really hard to find the way to say "can we just take a break, you do your thing, I'll do mine, and let's come back around again when we have time for our friendship" if that makes any sense?
(FWIW, she emailed ME asking me if I was upset about something since she sensed I was getting "distant", so it's not like I'm emailing her out of the blue saying "you suck now and are boring" - lol- I have to respond to her at SOME point I just can't figure out how to phrase that the friendship isn't really mutual or doing much for me anymore without sounding like an azzhat)
And Lisa, I remember we spoke of this before and I can understand your frustrations. You will find the words to express your feelings. If anyone can, it's you.