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pretty perfect timing
So just last night, I was feeling crappy about being alone and missing my stepson and missing being married.
Then my Outlook email prompted me to clean out old emails and I found these (ok, way more from XH) but these were a perfect exaplle of the exhausting, emotionally draining relationship with him:
Feb 24th - "your a horrible person that i have to make myself feel something for everyday. your constant badgering and accusations only make it worse. why would i want to make you feel good about yourself when the only thing you should feel is sad at the utter horribleness of your life. besides 2 dogs no one that has ever been involved with you has ever benefited from it. your a parasite 90% of the time feeding on other peoples lives. you demand everyone pay attention to you and make you happy. you give little if anything back and when they let you down or don't do as you expect them to you *** on them and betray them. you have no loyalty to marrage to your family, or to god. your as bad as t*** and you deserve each other. of course i'm lining up exit strategies. i can imagine living the rest of my life being devoured by your sick life. your the worst person i can ever imagine knowing and you constantly get pissed at me for not making more of an effort to make you feel better about yourself. thats why i get so mad at all these idiots who want you to leave me. no one knows that its been me wanting out for years. none of them know the ruin you would bring to their lives like you have mine. you nearly killed me the other night in a fit of drunken rage because i didn't want to go into a public place and be embarrassed by you. if you had succeeded it wouldn't have been about you and me anymore. hayden would have been left alone without a father and while i have been willing to put up with your *** against me i wont stand for you destroying whatever future he has. this is the last arguement. your apologies are meaningless as are your promises. i don't owe you anything anymore. were done. come home after work tonight if you want but i wont be here this time. stay away from me and my family "
And then, just a week later!
Mar 3 -
"i have to work tonight. but guess what. I LOVE YOU"
"i just wanted to hear that you value our time together. it seems like we only remember the bad times when were mad and i wanted to see you say something nice to me. ty. i love our good times together to. it makes me happy when we finish each others thoughts or think the same thing. i like how you always seem so happy when the sun is out. i love when your in a good mood and bouce around the house like bert on crack."
I guess it just helped me remember how absolutely awful it was- not like having a partner at all, I'd just sit at work reading these and wonder how he'd feel when i got home. It sounds like a lot of women out there are going through a similarly draining relationship.
Re: pretty perfect timing
Were you married to my XH?? That sounds pretty similar to some of the stuff he would say to me.
I agree with Kuus on this one...on the "your" issue and the good riddance.
What the actual f.u.ck.
He sounds like a POS.
He also can't spell the word marriage, so i'm not surprised he wasn't good at it.
Glad you posted this. Sometimes reading over old emails snaps you back into reality hey? Good for you.
So it was bitterly ironic when I saw a post on FB about me - "hopefully her family disowns her again" - and I thought, well someone's finally using that chart I made him...