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Question for those with multiple cats
Does one of them show dominance over the other one(s)? Our two cats are brothers and have been together since they were born. They get along great, but one of them is more dominant than the other. He likes to show this by biting the other one and not releasing until we intervene. We usually intervene because we hear the other yelp out in pain.
Is there anything we can do? I just feel so bad for the cat getting bit and wonder how much this happens during the day when we're at work. Does it make it worse that we're intervening?
Re: Question for those with multiple cats
We actually have all female cats because when our male cat passed away, we decided we were done with males and their dominance issues.
I would suggest spraying the dominant one with a water bottle any time he is biting or chasing. Then I would also get one of those Feliway diffusers and see if that helps. But no, in the grand scheme of things, I don't think there is much that can be done.
Oh that's a good idea! We already have a spray bottle with water for when they jump up on the kitchen counters. I might try that for a while to see if it helps. I just feel so bad for the other cat. Although, he is a bit of a drama king and likes to "talk" a lot. But I'm fairly certain he is feeling pain when the other cat is biting his neck since when I pick him up that part of his neck is wet.
Yes, our younger male cat is and he is always wants to play with our older cat, female cat. She essential wants nothing to do with him.
The water bottle trick is a good idea but like pp mentioned, there is not alot that can be done.
Our youngest, female (still technically a kitten, born in May) is showing very dominant personality traits. Our middle "child" (male, 2.5 years) is taking the brunt of it, it seems - she attacks him and starts "playing" (says H) and yet, this morning, I found a bit of his ear that had clearly been either scratched or bitten. No blood, and I think he sets some limits, but it makes me sad anyway.
He's huge but very skittish and passive (I adore him... he has the softest fur ever and he's soooo sweet), so although at rare times he shows her that she can't get away with her behavior, I think more often than not, he lets her get away with it.
And our eldest (female, about 13 yo) absolutely doesn't let the baby get away with her bossiness. The baby rarely tries but the older cat just gives her a growl and a hiss and she slinks away. I wish the middle boy would put her in her place like that more often.
(Bonus points for you if you kept up with all that. Maybe I should have used their names....)
We have two male cats. One is most definitely in-charge and can usually stop the other with a glare.
However, they fight. I let them. Honestly, there's a difference between a true cat-fight and a in-home cat fight. Unless it gets to true cat-fight status, I do not intervene, because it's part of their nature to challenge authority and establish a hierarchy. So as I said, unless it gets very severe, I just let them duke it out.
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We have siblings and it's actually Polly who is in charge.
I would hesitate to intervene - just because you feel bad doesn't mean the cat does. It's their nature to have that kind of balance. If you were to try to make them equal, you risk causing more friction. Male cats will fight to the death for dominance in a feral setting (I say from experience) so if they've got a groove, I say go with it.