Trouble in Paradise
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TIP on ML ( now with linkage!)(apparently I'm Nest incompetant today)
OP is unemployed, and her H is a dildo face. But she meant it when she said "for better or for worse".
http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/62304459.aspx
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Re: TIP on ML ( now with linkage!)(apparently I'm Nest incompetant today)
Isn't it funny how some men turn into unrecognizable pricks when they know they have a girl between a rock and a hard place? It's never acceptable to speak to another human being that way. Especially your spouse. No one can tell you what to do in this situation--and no one knows what they themselves would do unless they have already been there. The real question you should be asking yourself is: are you willing to allow yourself to be treated this way? If so, for how long? The average number of incidents a person will tolerate before getting themselves out of an abusive relationship is eleven...I hope you don't stick around that long if this continues. Maybe he is feeling the pressure. Maybe it was an isolated incident. Do either of those factors make the pain he caused you any less or his actions somehow excusable? Not in my book.
So they're having money problems and his solution is, ta da, more school! He's a selfish assface.
He's justified in being frustrated in her lack of direction, but the rest of it is all a gigantic package of bullsh!t. If he really gave a damn about their partnership, he'd defer to her career after he's done with his masters degree. This is the type of guy who will be a student for the rest of his life though. He has no interest in the real world and gets mad at her for almost the exact same thing,
I was also one of those "but I meant my vows" chicks so I can't fault her too much for reaching for that. It took me a while to accept that, while I meant them, he did not. It was all about He, not about We. I hope she makes the same realization. There are worse things than being the divorced girl. Namely, being the girl in a rotten marriage.
I have a feeling that her lack of a career path will turn itself around as soon as she stops scheduling her life around his.
I felt like I was the only one who took issue with the bolded. Part of the reason that things are so tight is because he is in school and his answer is more school...? Doubt that the same would even be a consideration for her.
I don't even think he's justified in her lack of direction. It seems like she's doing the best she can with what she has. I feel like her talk about teaching made the post confusing because she's not even able to teach without furthering her education...which she seems to realize is not a possibility right now because of their already mounting student loan debt. It does seem like she's just biding the time with anything until they move to a bigger city.
Hope she realizes that the problem isn't even financial but that her hubs is a giganticunt. :-(