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Bridezilla Strikes Again!(long/vent)
As most of you probably remember, my sister got remarried last weekend. I put on the show I was supposed to and was 100% pleasant the whole time (~48 hours...). Well, we were chatting on the phone today and something came up about the bouquets. I mentioned that one of her friends snatched mine from me as soon as we entered the reception, and that it was a little rude for her to not even say anything. She also basically told Hanz I was a b!tch to him. Anyway...so I complained about this girl "M". My sister took it upon herself to let me know that I pissed someone else off. Her friend "K" was pissed because I said something about "her being late and only showing up for the food". The key to this whole story is that I don't EVEN KNOW K!!!!!!!!!!!! Seriously?!?! I haven't met the woman, didn't know she was late, and wouldn't care even if I had known. Abso-freaking-lutely RIDICULOUS.
So I told my sister that if K believes she heard me say that (multiple times, mind you), "she can just fly off a cliff". That ticked my sister off and she "had to go" and hung up the phone.
I am so incredibly pissed off. I did everything I could to make sure her wedding day was smooth and that she had absolutely NOTHING she could blame me for. Yet, somehow, I am still in the middle of something and did something wrong!! How is this possible?!?! I ended up sending her a text saying that it really hurt that her friend that I didn't even know would say something like that and that she would believe it. She ended up telling me that this is "petty BS and isn't important". Very true, but if it was THAT petty, then she wouldn't have brought it up.
Should I send K a message on FB and set the record straight? At this point, I do not plan to speak to my sister for a while. She obviously favors her friends over her family, so why put in the effort to be "happy" for her when I really wish last weekend hadn't happened at all? I hate that I put so much energy into caring about her wedding and I just get slapped in the face.
Re: Bridezilla Strikes Again!(long/vent)
I can totally see why you'd be upset--your sister has a lot of nerve to be so petty to her own sister, especially considering how much you helped her with her wedding. You weren't obligated to doing all of that, but you did it because you care about her as your sister.
I don't think you should contact K to set the record straight because 1.) it will only make things worse, and 2.) it's all super petty and you acknowledging it just gives the whole situation an extended life that it doesn't deserve. They just need to get over whatever K thought she heard. Since you don't know K at all, I'd just suggest leaving her alone and hoping that you never run into her in the future.
At this point, just manage your relationship with your sister and forget about K or whoever else was involved.
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I completely agree with everything Kari said.
Sorry that this happened after you put so much effort in. That really stinks, especially when you know you didn't do anything wrong. I really think it would make it worse to say anything though.
I totally agree with PP - I think messaging K would be unnecessary. You have no need to justify something that never happened to begin with.
I'm sorry that you're stuck in the middle and you're feeling bummed out about the whole thing. But look at it like this. ITS OVER!!!! WOOOO! Juneville party because Kim's sister's wedding is finally done! WAHOO!
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Thank you all for bringing me back to Earth. I think K is just a crazy b-word. I'm going to just separate myself from my sister and her friends. They're all about the drama (shocking) and I, obviously, cannot handle that kind of junk.
In my heart, I feel like my sister made a really bad decision getting married to this guy, but I kept my mouth shut and smiled, faked being happy, and dealt with all of the BS. At this point, I refuse to put anymore effort into our relationship. We deal with each other when it comes to our Dad, but otherwise...it will basically be like the other doesn't exist. Oh well.
Your sister sounded like the kind of woman who wanted to get married and wouldn't be told otherwise- and so I feel like you saying this confirms that you were a good sister and MOH by standing by her side regardless of what you thought.
You never know - after all of this passes over things might get better. I would give it a few days (or weeks...) to calm down but I wouldn't purposely shut her out (even if she is being lame at any given time). Some of our extended family did that to each other when they were younger and they regret it now that they're older. They didn't agree on stuff but they wished they had connected sometimes just to be family.
Like I said. You sound like a good sister, Kim
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I definitely agree with all PP. I think that you should not acknowledge what K said that she heard from M... (does anyone else think that this sounds like chica-chica boom boom)
Obviously there is a reason that you have no idea who this girl is, and I agree that I would be upset if my sister just blindly took someone else's side...
Instead, you should focus on the amazing little house guests you had this weekend, the relationship that you have with THAT sister, and hope your sister comes back around soon. (PS I just went to look you up on facebook and started typing 'Kimberet' into the search function.
Hallelujah that you are done with that wedding and can put all the bridezilla drama behind you! Start focusing on you and Hanz and make us some new babies already!
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I did have a blast with my niece & nephew this weekend. They're fun little ones, but can be seriously exhausting! They're used to getting to go/do what they want most of the time, so I'm going to try to keep a lot of things I learned from them this weekend in mind when developing my parenting style. And I would seriously love to have the next Juneville baby announcement, but I don't think it'll happen..we're still shooting to "try" next year and I know there are more ladies that will hopefully be announcing within the next year