Good news! I finally cried!

PhoenixRising11

SInce finding out over a month ago that my H had an affair, I have been pretty numb/flat/stoic/shocky, but I FINALLY have started to FEEL something, which I think is a big deal. Of course, my big fear now is that I will not STOP crying. However, I feel like I am finally starting to work through my emotions a little bit, which is only going to serve me well because it will help to get me out of this limbo that I have been stuck in.

This just really sucks, though. 

jm1357

I am sorry you are going through this and I also hate to tell you that things will get worse before they get better. You have just stated, your emotions will be all over the place. I am not sure o your story and do not know if you are trying to work things out with him or if you are thinking about divorce or still unsure. However there are a great group of girls here, many who have walked in your shoes, myself included. This is a great place to come to work through your emotions and I also recommend counseling. The crying will stop, I promise, it has been 6 months since MY STBXH and I split and I found out about his affair and I am finally just settling down emotionally. Sending lots of hugs and support your way, things will get better.

farfalla2011

Yay for finallly feeling something! That's really a big step. But as PP mentioned, its only the beginning. Don't worry about not being able to stop crying, because you will....eventually. Lots of hugs during this very hard time!!

Liubot

Just let it out. You will feel better eventually and it's definitely okay to cry. It releases all of the crap and makes you feel better. I'm sorry you're going through this, but it's part of the stages of grief. It took me a good 6 months to feel anything as well, but then I went through the stages and ended up getting stuck on anger, which isn't so pleasant.

Good luck to you

LadyLissame

Its good to let it out. There were days where I felt like I wouldn't or couldn't stop crying. Now, I can go days without even feeling sad that my marriage is ending. It will gett better, it will take time but it will get better

dmarie979

Glad you are on your way! And don't worry about crying a lot, it is TOTALLY normal! As will the anger stage be! And yes, you will stop crying one day. It is a total roller coaster and you will go through a lot of ups and downs. But one day it will all be a distant memory. GL!