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What would you say in this situation, if anything...
I used to work with a great girl about 5 years ago. We became pretty good friends and would sometimes go out together socially after work. After we both resigned from our jobs, we lost touch and only got together every now and then. I probably haven't seen her in about 3 years now. We were still pretty friendly on Facebook, though.
One day, we both realized that we were due with babies on the same day. Then we both found out they were boys....so we used to go back and forth on Facebook about the upcoming arrivals and our pregnancies every so often. Then I didn't see her on Facebook for months. I finally saw her pop up again about a month or so ago and I came to the realization that she must have lost the baby in her late 2nd or early 3rd trimester.
I really would like to reach out to her to just let her know I am thinking about her. I just don't know what to say exactly or if she would appreciate such a message. It's not like she came out to the Facebook community about what happened to the baby..it's just a natural conclusion you can draw from her posts. Soooo what would you do? Say something? Say nothing? She is such a sweet girl and I truly feel terrible that something happened to her baby. I guess I just don't know how to start with what I should say...
Re: What would you say in this situation, if anything...
This did cross my mind. I am almost 99% sure based on other things but you could be right. I am going to keep it general, though.
I'd take the chance you were wrong and address it. If you're too general it may look like you're fishing for her to tell you. If you're wrong then that's awesome and apologize and I'm sure it won't be awkward because she has a baby so, yay!
I'd say that you were sorry for her loss and were thinking about her.