Wedding wwyd

PrncesWife

I need advice on a wedding situation.  DH's cousin is getting married Easter weekend in April in Phoenix.  It's an adult only wedding.  All his family will be attending the wedding, so no one is available to watch DD.  My family is in CA, so not available to watch DD.  We had originally decided either not to go, or to just send DH.  Well, my MIL just called.  She really wants us to go, even offered to pay for our hotel for 2 nights.  She mentioned asking the hotel about babysitting, or possibly some cousins (which I am unsure of because as far as I know they are all going to the wedding).  The ceremony starts at 5 or 6 so it's going to be a late night.  WWYD?

sara_c

Is the reception at a hotel?  Could you have a babysitter at the hotel where you could check on her during the evening?  I think that is the only way I would consider going.  Otherwise, I would just send your DH and stay home.

Also, how kid friendly is the rest of the weekend?  If it's not at all kid friendly, I definetly stay home. 

 

NicB

perhaps some of your familhas friends who might be willing to babysit and you trust their judgement on who they choose?

RoxBride

Do you, on your side, have a niece or nephew, or other relative that could join you on the trip to watch M?

Or could you Mom fly into to town and take care of M while you are there?

PrncesWife

I was actually thinking possibly to attend the ceremony and part of the reception and then go back to the room (I'm not a party person).  I'm not sure, but I think the ceremony and reception is at the same place, not the hotel.  But I just looked at airline tickets and it's probably not affordable to fly all 3 of us out there so I guess it doesn't really matter after all.

PrncesWife

RoxBride:

Do you, on your side, have a niece or nephew, or other relative that could join you on the trip to watch M?

Or could you Mom fly into to town and take care of M while you are there?

I have a 24 year old niece who has yet to acknowledge DD.  There's no way I'd leave her with her.  And unfortunately my mom is having her knee replaced soon and I have no idea what her recovery is going to be like.  And honestly, I don't trust her alone with DD.   DD is allergic to peanuts and my mom doesn't read labels, I've had to take stuff away that she has given DD before.

d&jb52407

I was thinking along the lines of taking someone with you as well.  Or what about the Nestie who lives just on the outskirts of Phoenix  (WB)?  She just had a baby and may be open to watching her for you.

howleyshell

A few options:

Pop on over to the Phoenix newlywed or bump board and ask around for a sitter recommendation or start checking craigslist for someone you could meet in advance once you're there but before the wedding.

Or... if MIL really wants you there and you're not comfortable hiring a stranger then divide and conquer.  You can take the first hour, DH can take the 2nd hour and MIL can take the 3rd hour.  You all get to go and your DD isn't staying with a stranger.

If she really wants you there and is pressuring you to all come she can be part of the solution, right? 

PrncesWife

Ok, after looking at airline prices, it's really not possible for us to afford the plane tickets, so we are back to not going.  And we are both fine with that.  He'll deal with his mom.