So frustrated with Corey

ladyredlight

Corey will argue with us over anything.  The sky is blue.  The sun is out.  Everything is an arguement lately.  I hate it.  I honestly love dropping him off at school and not having to argue all day long.  Sounds terrible.  I feel terrible about it. 

He is home today.  I took the boys to the drs and both have ear infections.  I put Travis in for his nap.  Corey has a project due in 10 days and we usually work on them together.  "Mom I started" ok fine.  He had 2 items checked off and 3 sentences.  Um no you don't have these items done.  I just sent him to his room.  After trying to explain to him what he needed to do and what should be done and how to address it if he had questions I just gave up. 

I am so so upset.  I hate that my son is so like me that he and I seem to butt heads all the time.  I don't even remotely know what to do.  If this is bad now I can't even imagine as he gets older that its going to get better.

Kristen81603

If you know he is like you, then you have to change you- he is not going to be able to change if you don't change first- does that make sense? As for the arguing, don't argue, you do not go back and forth with him at ALL. If you tell him something and he starts you stop, calmly say Corey I will not engage in this conversation with you. And WALK AWAY. You have to do all the work here, he can't he doesn't know how yet- 

Hang in there-  

hookersbabe

well the sky isn't blue today, and the sun isn't out )

you warned him, he ignored you, let him know that unless he starts his project now and works on it a little at a time, you won't be available to help and that if he gets anything less than pick a grade, he will not be permitted to play hockey, and then drop it...if he fails, he fails, and then he doesn't play hockey...its that simple.

kellyann1972

hookersbabe:

well the sky isn't blue today, and the sun isn't out )

you warned him, he ignored you, let him know that unless he starts his project now and works on it a little at a time, you won't be available to help and that if he gets anything less than pick a grade, he will not be permitted to play hockey, and then drop it...if he fails, he fails, and then he doesn't play hockey...its that simple.

I agree. I hear you though Ryan is a real pain in the ass lately. Smart mouth and all. Drives me nuts, I just figure its typical for the age and they will grow out of it.

 

AmyRob04

hookersbabe:

well the sky isn't blue today, and the sun isn't out )

you warned him, he ignored you, let him know that unless he starts his project now and works on it a little at a time, you won't be available to help and that if he gets anything less than pick a grade, he will not be permitted to play hockey, and then drop it...if he fails, he fails, and then he doesn't play hockey...its that simple.

I totally agree. Make it have consequence and don't rip your hair out over it. AND STICK TO YOUR GROUND. Make it be something he cares about - like hockey. And if he still can't get his *** together to get his work done, then he doesn't play. Simple. That'll prompt him to get his act together.

ceetee

dont engage. don't fight and let him do his own projects,,,if he doesn't do it, let him suffer the natural consequences...he doesn't hand it in on time. let him deal with it.  let him fail and stumble while it still doesn't really matter ( because big picture a few hockey games or a bad grade in 3d grade won't matter).

mrs.jjinqueens

So you basically have 2, 2year olds.  Poor dear!