Splitting Chores

stellelinds25

So my post and the replies got me thinking....how do you and DH split up the household chores?

For us, I do all the cooking and most of the cleaning (though he will run the vacuum if I ask), we take turns taking the dog out, I load the dishwasher and clean up the kitchen. He does most of the laundry (but he won't fold mine or put it away), takes the trash out, cleans up the dog poop and cleans up the dinner dishes (but he'll only load/unload the dishwasher if I ask, otherwise they sit in the sink).

barbbhoww

Honestly, I do most of it.  He helps occasionally, but I am SO type A with cleaning that even when he does something, it isn't good enough.  You know what he is good at?  Folding laundry..and cleaning the garage.

festivegal2008

Our general agreement is he takes care of the outside & I take care of the inside. I cook, clean the house and do the dishes.  He grills, mows the lawn, shovels snow, takes the trash out.  We each do our own laundry too. He totally does laundry like a dude - everything at once.  Whereas I split darks/lights, hand wash, socks/undies etc. 

However if I'm not feelling well he'll do the dishes, or if he's home from work and I'm not he'll vacuum & stuff.  And if the trash is full and he's busy or not home I'll take it out rather than sit around and wait for him.  We each clean our own bathrooms (he uses the shower in the basement to get ready in the mornings) and he vacuums the steps to the basement with the dirt devil. 

 

breannie

festivegal2008:

Our general agreement is he takes care of the outside & I take care of the inside. I cook, clean the house and do the dishes.  He grills, mows the lawn, shovels snow, takes the trash out. 

This is pretty much us too, the inside/outside rule.

He is really good with his days off, he gets a little restless and does laundry and cleans and organizes and stuff. He can't stand to sit still on most of his days off which are usually a Wednesday or a Thursday. For the most part I do all of the heavy duty cleaning and scrubbing. He actually said to me yesterday "does your vacuum have an attachment hose". I was like "oh my vacuum huh?"

Laurms15

Generally he deals with the outside and I cook.

We each do our own laundry. He's a toss it all in kind of guy (or so it seems) and I'm a separate loads HOT (for jammies and undies), reds, blue/blacks, whites type of washer.

I cook nearly every night, I'd say 95% of the time. However whomever does NOT cook does the dishes.

Usually we go food shopping together, he waits on the line for cold cuts and I speed through the rest of the store. Though sometimes its like shopping w/ a child he gets distracted lol. I make all of the lunches.

He takes out the garbage and recycling (I can't lift  the garage door). He's pretty in charge of the outside (mowing weeding all that).

I usually clean the kitchen, dining room, living room because honestly thats what the guests see lol. He takes care of the bedroom, study, and basement. We take turns doing the bathrooms. He usually does the showers/tubs I generally wipe down the sinks and we take turns w/ the commode. 

He shovels snow and I'm very thankful for that. I'll pop out for a bit and help/show support lol but he does most of that.

dasmel30

Well I think I'm the odd one out!  DH and I don't necessarily split chores.  We do whatever needs to be done when it needs to be done.  I've done outside work when he didn't have time and he's done inside work when I haven't had time.  However, right now he does most of the outside work (shoveling snow).  He would probably chew me out if he knew I was shoveling....

waltzingmatilda13

I do laundry (including folding and putting away), dusting and general straightening around the house

He mows the lawn, drags the trash can out, cleans up dog poop and cleans the bathrooms. 

We both cook and clean dishes (if one cooks, the other cleans), vacuum, bathe the dog and anything else that needs to be done 

I feel like it's split pretty evenly because laundry takes hours and lawn mowing only happens during the warmer months.  

mickylvr1

I feel like we are fairly evenly split.

I cook dinner almost every night and he does the dishes/cleans up the kitchen.  If he cooks, then I clean.   He also takes out the trash.

If I'm not home, he will do laundy.  I just have to sort it, because he's a typical guy and just throws it all together.  He even folds, even though I don't like the way he folds my laundry.

I usually dust and pick up while he cleans the bathroom and vaccums.

If one of us is not home or not feeling well, the other will pick up the slack.

allioops414

barbbhoww:

Honestly, I do most of it.  He helps occasionally, but I am SO type A with cleaning that even when he does something, it isn't good enough.

I think this is my problem

I do pretty much everything inside.  He does garbage, garage cleanup, any yard work, and he does his own bathroom, and his laundry usually.  He did scrub some mildew in my tub the other day for me, so now I feel bad about venting!

 

TotallyLoCo

I feel like ours are pretty evenly split, if anything he may do a little more since he works from home. But, we have a housekeeper come in every other week which helps BIG TIME since there is no arguing over who has to clean the toilets.

I do:

- All the cooking

- My laundry and the household laundry (sheets, towels, etc.)

- Make the bed

- Pay all of the bills/manage our finances/make appointments for things/renew insurance etc.

-Light cleaning between housekeeper visits such as wiping down kitchen/bathroom, vacuuming, etc.

He does:

- About 95% of the dishes, and gets mad at me if I start to do them when I get frustrated that things are piled in the sink

- His own laundry

-Takes out the trash and recycleables

-Scoops the litter boxes, feeds the cats each morning, takes them to the vet, buys their food... basically all I have to do is curl up with them and pet them

We usually grocery shop together since he likes to pick out his own stuff to eat for lunch during the week. We'll probably have to come up with a new system for this when the baby comes.

dls.1215

While we split fairly evenly, it comes and goes depending on who is busier at the time (for example during finals I did almost nothing around the house so I picked up the slack.  However the quality sometimes annoys me, for example yesterday he was off for MLK day and I had to work.  I said oh can you make dinner (I cook 95% of the time)  He said ok, when I got home and asked what was for dinner he told me..."chicken tenders and fries from the freezer"  WHAT?????  We ended up with Chinese takeout....

But on an average week, I do the day to day maintenance (though he cleans up after dinner if I cook) and he helps out with the more weekly things i.e. cleaning bathrooms, laundry etc.  He also takes out the dogs whenever were both home. 

RachieK10

I think it's pretty fair around my house.

I do:

- Laundry

- Load/unload dishwasher

- Make bed daily (my own personal peeve, he would have an unmade bed at all times)

- Walk dog in the evening

He does:

- Trash (including dog poop!)

- Walk dog in the morning

We both try to do a good job cleaning up after ourselves so we're not actually cleaning during the week - neither of us has the time or energy! Whoever gets home cooks AND does the dishes because he makes such a mess cooking I don't think it's fair that i get stuck with his plentiful dishes

When we clean on the weekends, I usually do the kitchen and bathrooms and he does the living room, garage and lanai. I don't know why, it just ended up that way.

We are lucky enough to have a lawn service w/ our homeowners' association so neither of us is responsible for stuff like that.

MandahGirly

I do the grocery shopping, most of the cooking, and I put the dirty dishes in the dishwasher.

DH does the laundry, puts the clean dishes away, and general cleaning. I usually make him vacuum. Sometimes he will help me cook 

festivegal2008

breannie:

festivegal2008:

Our general agreement is he takes care of the outside & I take care of the inside. I cook, clean the house and do the dishes.  He grills, mows the lawn, shovels snow, takes the trash out. 

 

He is really good with his days off, he gets a little restless and does laundry and cleans and organizes and stuff.

Yeah Mike does too.  He gets 5 weeks vacay that he loses if he doesn't take, and when he had that week off after Thanksgiving he was stir crazy midway through.  Other than a dentist appt, Christmas shopping and running 5 miles a few days he didn't have much going on so he started vacuuming & other house hold stuff.  I told him next time he needs to take a random week do it in the summer.    Our NDNs have a pool & let us use it any time we want.

Lisa6255

I do most of the grocery shopping (if there are things I forgot or last minute items I'll ask him to go since he's not working) though if I asked he could do it all but the list would have to be so specific and detailed it takes less time to go myself than to write out the list :-)

I cook unless I ask him to get stuff started if one of us has to be somewhere soon after I get home from work. I did designate him to cook last Sat and he did a great job!! I may ask him more often haha. He always volunteered to do the dishes esp when I cook, I'll offer when he cooks/preps and sometimes he'll insist doing it himself.

We split laundry, depending on if I feel motivated or not. I always take care of my sweaters/delicates (just easier that way) and the sheets and usually towels. We put our own stuff away generally.

I'm the only one who vacuums/ sweeps/ mops unless I ask him to, which is only when I really don't have time and it needs to be done by a certain time b/c of company coming. 

I do the bathrooms unless I ask him to.

I dust b/c I use pledge, he hates the smell and would only use a swiffer which I think is usually a waste of time except for touch ups.

He does all the outside stuff, he literally won't let me help rake leaves or shovel snow. 

He takes care of the turtles and leopard gecko (he bought them for the kids before I moved in so they are his responsibility- I would never have bought reptiles myself)

He does anything I ask him to which is great, though frustrating to have to ask esp for things like when the toilet bowl looks gross and he's home all day and could take 2 seconds to put cleaner in and use the brush :-) I did tell him about that a couple weeks ago and he acknowledged that.