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Some people are really clueless! Minor vent...
I brought Anna to an office meeting today and was telling everyone that daycare starts in 3 weeks. One of my colleagues said "Awwww, you have to send her to daycare?!"..... like it some horrible place. Then she asked why my mom can't watch her...... WTF and STFU.
I feel better!
Re: Some people are really clueless! Minor vent...
Little Friends Day School in Chatham.
I really should have said that. People are idiots....
1st of all - E is so adorable, i can't stand it!
But no, she didn't make me feel badly, I just thought it was really rude and a bit insensitive (what if I was upset about it?!!?)... I feel very comfortable with the daycare that we are going with. If we had gone with the 1st place we saw, I would be a neurotic mess right now, I just didn't have a good feeling. The other thing is that Matt & I both have really flexible schedules, so we're looking at 8:30-4:30 three days a week. I think I'm really lucky!
Mom to Teagan 4.11.07 and Cora 9.30.11
D&E @ 22w 9.30.09 CMV infection BFP 10.15.10 C/P 4w4d
OMG!!!! WTH is wrong with people?!?!?!?!
Old school mentality. Sad!!! The woman who commented to me today is probably 60-65.
What a jerk. Try not to let it get to you.
On the flipside, on the day I went back into work to say goodbye to people and make it official that I was going to stay home, I had an old co-worker say to me "really, you aren't coming back? You just don't strike me as the stay at home mom type" I had no response since I was so taken aback. I should have said "you just don't strike me as the a**hole type" but I'm not that quick on my feet.
Hell, people are going to think what they want, but I just wish they'd keep their opinions to themselves.
Thanks Liz!
I'd like to see some stats too on how many people DO have family watching their kid and how many of those people have issues BECAUSE it's family and that person thinks because they are family they can do what they want with the kid vs what the parent wants.
I'm not saying it's like that with everyone, but it's just no one's foffing business what your childcare situation is. Obviously if you're doing it, you're either comfortable with it or it's your only option. So, why say anything beyond congrats and then STFU.
People are rude idiots.
I work 3 days/week and my MIL watches DD- she retired just to babysit for us. While I recognize that we are incredibly lucky and it's saving us a small fortune, some days I find it difficult dealing with MIL doing things "her way" and I constantly feel like I am nagging her if I give her specific instructions. Hell, the other day I mentioned her sound machine for bed time/naps and she says "oh, I don't know how to turn it on so I don't use it." WTF!? Turn the volume knob until sound comes out. Anyway, I think daycare definitely has it's benefits and I'm actually looking forward to sending DD for a few days in the spring.
I hear ya. What is it with MILs? I have a p/t job now and my MIL watches my son on Mondays. Since he eats breakfast and lunch with her I bring his toothbrush and toothpaste over and ask her to make sure she helps him brush his teeth. EVERY freaking week I get there after work and I can tell this teeth haven't been brushed. So I ask- have his teeth been brushed. Her answer is always "no. Oh don't worry to so much, so he doesn't brush one day it won't kill him!"
WTF!?!? Who thinks like that?
I now brush his teeth before we go over there and before he eats breakfast on Mondays- which upsets him because its not part of his breakfast then teeth brushing routine. But I gotta do it because otherwise who knows if it will get done at all before I get there at 2pm.
I think older people just have a "bad" view of daycare. Daycare now isn't what it was 30-40 years ago. That doesn't justify what they say though. It is still rude and people should keep it to themselves!
And I just want to say that I
daycare.... both of my kids 
daycare... and I wouldn't use family to watch them even if I had the choice.
i've told you that my father has repeatedly asked me why i don't stay home with the boys, right? my answer continues to be, "because i work for you, remember?"
?????