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Re: Lovely (insert sarcasm)
http://www.nj.com/news/index.ssf/2012/01/feds_nj_babysitter_recorded_se.html
people like this need to be tortured, prison is getting off too easily.
Absolutely disturbing.
Are comments like this really necessary? Many of us have no family that can watch our kids. Or should we have not have kids because we don't have a village to raise our kids?
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Additionally, there are plenty of instances where family or close friends have sexually assaulted a child.
that poor little girl and her family...and that beast's family too...i feel horrible for all of them...
the story intimates that the kid was asleep...i just hope and pray that she never woke up and has no clue that all of this happened...
and like melbride said...there must be a special place in hell for this beast!
Also, maybe children are abused by family and close friends. More than by babysitters. It's just really sad, let's leave it at that.
I sure hope you are right Melissa. There is nothing another human being could do to this woman that would even remotely equal justice.
Honestly, I didn't mean it to come off as snarky, but people tell me I am crazy all the time because I can't go out if my family or close friends can't watch the kids. They tell me I should get a local babysitter because you can't always rely on family and friends. Seeing that this woman lives in the same town as me, and she could've been the local babysitter I found it just reinforced what I always thought. Hence why I posted it. Not to rub it in the faces of people who don't have family or friend that can help them.
And for what it's worth, I might have a lot of family, but none that can watch my kids full time when I go back to work so they will be put in daycare/preschool.
ETA: I do realize that a lot of abusers are family and close friends. And Liz said it best, it's just sad all around.
I agree. This is disgusting. I pray that the little girl is ok.
See, I just don't understand why, if there is PROOF, video proof that this woman did these things to a CHILD why she should continue to breath. I'm seriously. You can't fix that. Prison, counseling, therapy, none of that can fix someone who could do that to another person let alone a 5 year old child. Why waste the time, energy & tax payer money on housing such an animal?? I truly don't understand it. We all agree that there are just sick people out there...well, if we catch them and then just let them out again how does that fix the problem.
Oh, and thinking that only bad things happen when you trust strangers or non-family members is just a sad way to live your life. And a rather naive point of view.
Why, why, why did I read that article?
As I sit here playing on the floor with my baby girl in her pink jammies with elephants on them, I can't help but think that if someone ever hurt her like that, going to prision would be the least of their worries....I just have no words to describe what I would (want) to do to that person.
agreed 100%...actually, something tells me, that i might be the one in jail after i was done...
What a sick and twisted evil ***. She will get hers in jail.
I was sexually abused by my Uncle for years as a kid. My parents left me in his and my grandmother's care whenever they went out thinking I was safe.
Not saying this for sympathy or whatever, but parents, friends, family should all be checked out before watching a child.
I have babysat for years, I love kids and am over protective so that nothing ever hurts them / harms them. I could never harm or even think of harming a child. I am always so surprised when parents don't even do an interview or meet and greet before they hire me. Check references, and a back-ground check if possible. Also teach your kids about what is a right and wrong touch. I think that is the most important thing, they shouldn't be afraid to tell. For years I was, I was told my parents would hate me and put me into an orphanage, kids are very innocent and believe everything a grown up tells them. Having a strong support system at home is key, your child shouldn't be afraid to tell you anything.
But what you always thought doesn't make sense seeing as how many kids get violated by someone they're related to, know and trust. I'd pick a stranger to watch my kid over my (personal) family any day of the week. People are people and related or not they all come on a case by case basis.
Anyway, it is an awful story. And I find it hard to believe that they are such a "normal" family. Her parents seem more concerned that their daughter is going to jail for awhile than what she did to that child. Something is off there.
something absolutely is off there
I kind of agree with what Tara said in bold. They have 4 adult children who hav come back home to live iwth the parents at one point or another. That seems kind of odd to me and I was struck by it when reading the article.
What a sick, awful, horrible story.
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I could even make it past the second paragraph. I am so so sad for that little child.
My sex abuser was a port authority police officer (who was also my step father). The people you would go to for protection. It just shows that it could be anyone, any where, any time. It's our responsibility as parents to educate our children about what is ok and what's not okay.
It's really unfortunate that this woman won't be sent away for life.
I think it's also worth noting that there are so many different degrees of sexual abuse. In my case, it was classified as "sexual terrorization" (verbally threatened but never physical contact). It can go from there all the way to the unthinkable.
When talking to your children also be sure to address verbal abuse and threats by a predator. Like if someone says they want to "touch" or pretends like they are going to touch, or someone other than a parent or doctor accompanied by a parent simply discusses private parts, this is abuse! it's easy to focus on the physical, teach your kids about what's acceptable verbally as well.
Oh my God, STOP. This was her opinion, her statement, she didn't meant anything but she's glad she has family and close friends she trusts to watch her children. We are all entitled to our own opinion, it's not meant to piss YOU or anyone off...Geez.