Annie's Mailbox has some good TIP

DaringMiss

This woman is a mess...

 

Dear Annie: Six months ago, I was fired for stealing from my job. I was too embarrassed to tell anyone, so I lied ? to my parents, my friends, everybody. I told them I quit so I could go back to school.Then I lost my house because I didn't have the money to pay the mortgage. My parents told me that I'm almost 40 and need to stand on my own two feet. They wouldn't let me move in with them. My best friend felt sorry for me and said I could camp out in her guest room until I got back on my feet.In that time, I've fallen in love with her husband. I couldn't help it. "Alex" is amazing ? smart, charming, kind, athletic, attractive, the total package. But it makes me uncomfortable to see him being so affectionate with his wife, always holding her hand and stroking her hair. I can't figure out why their marriage has lasted 10 years. He's outgoing, and she's shy. She's also rather plain. Alex doesn't seem to realize that he could have somebody so much better looking and smarter. He could have me.I know his wife took me in when nobody else would, but you can't help who God tells you to love. My mother says I need therapy. I don't agree. I simply want to know how to deal with my feelings so I can be around my friend without wanting to smack that sweet smile right off her face. Any advice? ? Crazy in LoveDear Crazy: You steal from your job, lie to your family and then try to seduce your best friend's husband. Alex is smart enough to know a good woman when he marries one. The longer you stay in that house the harder it will be for you. Get any job, maybe two of them, so you can afford another place to live, even if it means multiple roommates. Then take your mother's advice and get some counseling to understand why you keep trying to take things that don't belong to you.

DaringMiss

I must admit that the whole part about "you can't help who God tells you to love" really made me wonder if she isn't actually crazy.

cmeinla

DaringMiss:

I must admit that the whole part about "you can't help who God tells you to love" really made me wonder if she isn't actually crazy.

No, she's not crazy.  She's just looking for somewhere to place the blame so she doesn't feel like the skanky ho, she actually is.

FroggyFarts

I'm totally appalled. I feel for her poor best friend who is clearly doing her a huge favor. I can get over being attracted to your best friend's husband, it's the smack-talking of her best friend as his wife that makes me think, "what a b!tch."

It's a shame her friend doesn't know so she could throw her ass into the street.

BettyBookworm

What an evil slut-bag

LadyLissame

That is someone who describes "With friends like that who needs enemies" to a T

8daysaweek

I find it hilarious that she still thinks so highly of herself despite the fact that she's a total trainwreck. Maybe her husband would just rather have the friend who opens her home to a friend in need than the friend who stabs that person in the back?

BowiesInSpace

I used to have a friend who thinks exactly like this.  Incidentally, she's almost 40 and her parents bailed her out of some major CC debt.  Occasionally she has flashes of self-awareness and sets up a counseling appointment, but then she won't work on herself...she spends the time talking about how to cope with the fact that there aren't any good men left in her age range.  Her definition of "good" being that they're hot and co-dependent.

Eventually I grew tired of her schtick and separated myself.  I heard from a mutual friend that she's got a boyfriend now.  They met on FB and linked their profiles together on the first date.