TMI and a little long, but some feedback would be great

HallowsEve7

DD'd

Thank you all for your advice. I'm getting us a counselor and seeing about the other doc tomorrow.  

MissusTexas

That's sad. I really hope the IUD works out, but either way I think you both need to go to counseling. Good luck!

Otterama

I think that therapy is a great idea. :::hugs:::

alabaster_angel

Condoms and counseling. *gavel*

I think a lot of relationships go through similar issues for a variety of reasons.

We've been struggling sexually because of opportunity issues.

vxs0038

I'm sorry you are going through a rough spot right now. We have never had those types of issues. Are you all not having sex because of the pregnancy fear? Are you sure there isn't anything else? Stressors?

I'd start with just spending time with each other. Just you and him. No interruptions. You need to feel that intimacy w/o being naked, kwim?

Good luck!

HallowsEve7

vxs0038:

I'm sorry you are going through a rough spot right now. We have never had those types of issues. Are you all not having sex because of the pregnancy fear? Are you sure there isn't anything else? Stressors?

We're pretty sure there's nothing else, because it's been about the same once every 4-5 weeks since then. There have been longer periods of time with additional stressors, though. 

I'd start with just spending time with each other. Just you and him. No interruptions. You need to feel that intimacy w/o being naked, kwim?

We spend a lot of time together. It's just the two of us out here, and we have only a few new friends so far. We have a very intimate relationship, just not the sexxytime. 

Good luck!

BlondeMoment123

I think counseling is a good idea. I hope you can get to the doc soon for your IUD.

 

professorscience

If the IUD can't happen, have you considered FAM (Family Awareness Method)?  It involves learning the window of time in your cycle when you are fertile and either abstaining during that time or using an alternative form of contraception during that window.  Done right it's just as effective (or moreso) as artificial contraceptives.  There are books and classes you can take to teach it -- a lot of the people I know are self-taught and baby-free going on several years.

 I hope that everything turns up for you! 

Otterama

professorscience:

If the IUD can't happen, have you considered FAM (Family Awareness Method)?  It involves learning the window of time in your cycle when you are fertile and either abstaining during that time or using an alternative form of contraception during that window.  Done right it's just as effective (or moreso) as artificial contraceptives.  There are books and classes you can take to teach it -- a lot of the people I know are self-taught and baby-free going on several years.

 I hope that everything turns up for you! 

It seems considering the situation that would be more stressful to OP.

alabaster_angel

professorscience:

 Done right it's just as effective (or moreso) as artificial contraceptives. 

False. Don't be a moron.. we're full up on those lately.

professorscience

alabaster_angel:

False. Don't be a moron.. we're full up on those lately.

I apologize if I overstepped my bounds as someone new to this forum. I was merely offering a solution that I (and many of my peers) have found effective. As I said, FAM actually allows for the use of contraception during the fertile phase. If it is an unpopular method of avoiding conception around here, then I will keep it to myself.

@otter: You're probably right, although I think the most stressful time would be while learning to use it, at which time the OP could use another form of BC.  It might also allow for the opportunities to increase intimacy outside of the bedroom suggested by an earlier post.

alabaster_angel

professorscience:

I apologize if I overstepped my bounds as someone new to this forum. I was merely offering a solution that I (and many of my peers) have found effective.

I bet you were a cute little virgin bride.

professorscience

alabaster_angel:

professorscience:

I apologize if I overstepped my bounds as someone new to this forum. I was merely offering a solution that I (and many of my peers) have found effective.

I bet you were a cute little virgin bride.

Now I apologize for assuming we were all adults with valid opinions here. 

alabaster_angel

professorscience:

Now I apologize for assuming we were all adults with valid opinions here. 

I'm going to pin you down and spit in your bellybutton.

HallowsEve7

alabaster_angel:

professorscience:

Now I apologize for assuming we were all adults with valid opinions here. 

I'm going to pin you down and spit in your bellybutton.

LOL Ala!  

Otterama

HallowsEve7:

alabaster_angel:

professorscience:

Now I apologize for assuming we were all adults with valid opinions here. 

I'm going to pin you down and spit in your bellybutton.

LOL Ala!  

She has threatened to do this to me and has yet to deliver. We even met in person, the opportunity was there.  

HallowsEve7

Otterama:

HallowsEve7:

alabaster_angel:

professorscience:

Now I apologize for assuming we were all adults with valid opinions here. 

I'm going to pin you down and spit in your bellybutton.

LOL Ala!  

She has threatened to do this to me and has yet to deliver. We even met in person, the opportunity was there.  

You sound disappointed this wasn't a promise she kept. 

lexxasaurus

alabaster_angel:

professorscience:

Now I apologize for assuming we were all adults with valid opinions here. 

I'm going to pin you down and spit in your bellybutton.

...I adore you Ala.