Delivery room poll

lftilxi

Wanted to get an idea of who was allowed in the delivery room when you gave birth?[Poll]

kms34

DH and I are both very private and feel like the birth of our children is a moment for just the two of us.  It's a moment you can never get back and it was important that we meet our son(s) together without any interruption.

mallen34

Husband only. DH was the only one I allowed in there. It was also easier to have a little family time after baby was born if it was just the two of us to begin with. My mother, who spent the day with us at the hospital, came in probably 30 minutes later.

luvjon

My mom and I are extrememly close, I wouldn't have had it any other way.  Her and my DH were a good balance.

julandjo

I didn't get a choice, as I was never in labor and both kids were premature C-section babies.  So it was just DH.  If I'd had the choice though, I would have wanted my mom there, at least for part of the labor.  My MIL too because she's awesome.

brynners

I always assumed my mom would be there when I delivered.  When talking with DH before E was born, I found out he wanted it to be just us.  He wanted time alone for us to be a family for the first time.  I think he felt that this was about me and him, and he didn't want it to end up being about me and my mom.

E's birth was perfect, it was me, DH, the L&D nurse, a baby nurse and my OB.  Isla's birth was crazy with a million people running around.  I had her in the OR, so DH would have been the only one allowed anyway.  

I also left for the hospital in the middle of the night with both girls, so my mom was sleeping at the time.  

Haven1

I didn't even want anyone at the hospital. Even if I have a traditional birth experience, it would have been DH and me only.

treeduck

For our first it was DH, my mom and MIL.  For our second, it was just DH.  

SuzEJ

luvjon:

My mom and I are extrememly close, I wouldn't have had it any other way.  Her and my DH were a good balance.

This was me too. My mom was a nurse for 40 years (she's retired now), and although she wasn't bossy about any of the care I received, she was totally at ease in a delivery room and her presence was an enormous comfort. She and my DH are close, too. It was wonderful.

RugbyBride

My mom was there for Maren. After that, it was just me and DH.

ETA: That was for the actual birth. Both my parents, ILs and BIL and SIL were in and out of the room during labor. My BFF flew into town for Kolbe's and hung out while I labored too. It was actually fun.

katie00224

We didn't even call our parents until after C was born & we had picked a name. They didn't know I had gone into labor early or anything. I much preferred it just to be DH & I.

Teresa

DH only.  Blech otherwise. 

Ashnkris

I had a cs so it was just DH. My mom was going to be there had I delivered in the room and I told MIL that she was invited but not to feel pressured. In the end I loved that it was just DH since it was such a special moment for us. 

NebraskaBride06

I only wanted DH in there, which, I ended up having a c/s so he was the only one in there anyways. I didn't even want my ILs to know we went to the hospital to be induced because I knew they'd be all up in my cookies. My SIL was in labor for 24 hours before her c/s and my FIL sat in the recliner in the room flipping through the channels on the TV and sleeping on and off. I could NOT handle that. It was bad enough listening to DH play Bejeweled Blitz on facebook while I was laboring.

♥SUM♥

I need an other..... For the first one it was H, my mom, and MIL for my second it was H, my mom and my sister.... I think it is an awesome experience and wanted family with me!

AudreyHpbrn

If DH wasn't going to be able to be there, I would have had my mom and SIL there with me.

But DH was there but I had a c-section so I had so many other people there I didn't even know.  We did get a laugh at our Anethesiaologist doc talking about Hawaii and his fun times as he was a single guy.

Edit:  DH's family was there the entire day and so was my mom and SIL.  We started at 7am and didn't have S until 10pm but they didn't see him until almost midnight.  Since we did have to do C-Section, I told DH that I didn't want anyone going to the nursery to see S before I got to hold him first and spend some time with S and DH alone and then alone time with my stepkids being introduced to their new little brother.  Everyone was really respectful of our wishes.

SB&J

I couldn't have imagined having anyone else there beside my DH. We didn't even call anyone else when we went into labor with DS1. Scheduled induction for DS2 so they did know, but didn't let anyone just come traipsing up there, told them to wait until the babe was here.

I love my Mom so much but I just felt like this was a moment for our family, and my family now includes me, DH, and our kids. She completely understood & didn't even ask to be present nor would she have felt comfortable being there, I would guess.

MissManda

My dad came to visit for a few minutes (read: brought DH dinner, stayed for a few contractions, and then left). My BFF came about the same time and stayed - we told her she could come/go as she pleased but she really helped keep me distracted from some of the pain. DH had hurt his shoulder the week before I was due, and I knew he wouldn't be able to massage my back like I would need if I had back labor (which I did!), so she was there to help. She was originally going to leave before I pushed, but everything went so fast in the end... DH handed her the camera, and she stayed. (Luckily, she was there -- DH went to the warmer with DS since he had the cord wrapped and wasn't breathing that well -- so she stayed by my side)

jen2713

SB&J:

I couldn't have imagined having anyone else there beside my DH. We didn't even call anyone else when we went into labor with DS1. Scheduled induction for DS2 so they did know, but didn't let anyone just come traipsing up there, told them to wait until the babe was here.

I love my Mom so much but I just felt like this was a moment for our family, and my family now includes me, DH, and our kids. She completely understood & didn't even ask to be present nor would she have felt comfortable being there, I would guess.

You did call your best friend and I almost was in there since that sucker popped out so fast!!

I always assumed my mom and sisters would be in with me but then dh was pretty adamant that it just be us. I had c/s with both girls, so really no choice!

SB&J

jen2713:

You did call your best friend and I almost was in there since that sucker popped out so fast!!

Haha, good point my friend!!  

I can still picture that nurse: "Are you Jennie? Wait in the waiting room!"

First person he met besides me & Brian, now that is a good friend!

indomesticbliss

The hubs and our doula were it. My mom was staying at our house when I went into labor with B, and while she is wonderful, she drove me a little batty when I was laboring at home witht he "what do you need? are you okay?" questions 20,000 times....

My SIL did ask if she could fly in and be in L&D-she is finishing up her nursing degree this semester. I said no-she is a great girl, but I know DH's entire extended family would know every single detail of my labor within 2 days of me giving birth and I don't really think his aunts/uncles/cousins/grandfather need to know what my vag looks like.....