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Please help me not repeat my mistakes (BFing)

It's starting.  In the evenings baby girl is tired and fussy and does not want to nurse.  She screams and screams.  She's hungry and wants a bottle but it's so hard to get her to latch.  I need her to nurse.  I cannot be an EPer again.  Any advice?

And to think her first week at school they were worried about her reluctance to take a bottle

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Re: Please help me not repeat my mistakes (BFing)

  • Is she tired?  Maybe try a little earlier?  Or in the dark where it's quiet?  
  • imageschoolsoutbride:
    Is she tired?  Maybe try a little earlier?  Or in the dark where it's quiet?  

    We can't really do earlier (although I could try while we're still at daycare

    Complete dark is what finally helped tonight

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  • if the dark stops working, maybe you could try one at daycare and again before bed?

    How is she on the weekend?  If she doesn't mind BFing then, I'd assume it's a time of day thing.  If she fusses then, I'd assume more bottle preference?  I don't have a ton of advice on that because our problems have always leaned in the other direction.

  • She did this a bit on the weekend too... but now that I think about it I think it was only in the evenings and middle of the night.  Maybe I'm panicking prematurely.
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  • Breathe mama!  She's just tired, she's not doing it cause she wants a bottle.  Max does the same thing mot nights and he barely ever has a bottle.  He gets too overstimulated and just has a hard time settling and nursing some nights (okay most nights).  I find that if I can get him started before that point then things go better, but with two other kids it's almost impossible.  So I just tough it put, eventually he'll latch nd eat, but sometimes it takes an hour (really).  I have found standing up and sort of jiggling him while we latch can be most effective.  I think it's just the age and has absolutely nothing to do with the bottle.  Whatever you do don't give a bottle when she's with you, just relax and work through it.  Remember to relax, she's picking up your stress too...
    Mama to Lucy (7/06), Lexi (5/09), and Max (11/11) M/C 12/17/10
  • I think you've gotten some great advice from PP's. Just to throw a few other ideas out in case you need to try some new things:

    * try latching while standing/walking (baby in a carrier or you holding her)

    * try latching while both of you are in a warm bath together

    * try pumping just a bit to get the let down, then latching her when milk is already flowing

    * try cluster feeding in the evenings - more often than you ever thought possible

    *Hugs* you will get through this!

  • We definitely had nights like this too. I would put E down to "bed" (lights off, pacifier in, swaddled, sleep sheep on) and this would calm her down enough that she could nurse after 10 min or so. She really was just overtired and needed some down time to be able to nurse. I know this won't work for all babies, but it worked for ours.
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