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F/U SD alleging abuse and a WWYD
I posted at the beginning of December that my SD made allegations of sexual abuse against her moms husband. CPS dropped the case because of her previous false accusations, and we received word recently that the police have dropped the case as well. It's not that there isn't enough evidence-they don't think anything happened at all. Her stories were very inconsistent with very basic things changes (when, where, how).
Her psychiatrist has her in DBT therapy for suspected borderline personality disorder. She seems to be more "present" with the family, if that makes any sense. She "seems" to be getting better, but if this Is a correct diagnosis then I know that this is something we will be dealing with forever. It makes me sad, because I used to think she could do anything in the world, and now I'm just wondering if she'll be able to support herself. She's very sick, and that makes me so, so sad.
Now for a WWYD...I've read that in 2008 some researchers discovered a genetic marker for borderline and/or bipolar (she has that dx officially). I have a child who is her half sister.ive recently put my DD in therapy for a myriad of issues, some of which may be completely normal for her age and some which clearly are not. Would you seek out genetic testing for your child to determine if he/she has the genetic marker to be susceptible to these issues? I understand it wouldn't be a diagnosis and that there are alot of factors that go into this, but WWYD? I plan on mentioning it to my psychiatrist later this month, but thought I'd get some other opinions in the meantime.
Re: F/U SD alleging abuse and a WWYD
Ok say these tests can determine is she has marker...then what?
will this help her now? will it hurt her? what will they do if they are there? id need to know these answers before id give an answer.
If she's been diagnosed, I'm not sure what more information a genetic marker could give you. The risk has already been determined. I feel like you are past the point of genetic testing unless it would mean that there would be some difference in the treatment plan.
GOod luck with this. It's going to be a long road.
How old is your SD? I work on a lot of child sex abuse cases and in my training and experience, very few are false reports. Many are hard to confirm or prosecute, but this isn't normally something kids make up. It makes me sad for her that she's being written off as a liar. Even if I choose not to move forward with a case I never tell the parents the child is lying, I tell them I can't prove it. There is a huge difference and I wonder if information is being lost in translation before it makes its way to you.
I would not test my own DD, I'd continue to treat both girls as needed. The DSM changes all the time anyway, I'm not sure a label helps anyone.
This was the other thing I was wondering. How can you be so certain that it's a false accusation?