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To go or not to go...
My SILs little sister is getting married this weekend. We graduated together, but I haven't seen her since my niece was born (2 months after graduation). When I got married, she and her mom bugged my brother for an invitation for ages. I finally sent it, and they RSVP no. I was surprised to get an invite.
I talked to SIL for over an hour last night. She really wants me to go. She is the MOH and really doesn't want to do it. I told her I didn't RSVP, and she said it didn't matter. The wedding details:
-The bride got her dress at the thrift store.
-The ring is heart shaped, and it will match the heart shaped fountain cake.
-It's a 5:00 Saturday evening wedding, but there is no food. They're serving cake, punch and coffee.
-There will be 3 songs, a father/daughter, a mother/son and the first dance. No other music is allowed.
-They weren't going to have a rehearsal dinner until they found out the church gave them one with the wedding. Bride decided it would be formal, and bought a floor length gown. Then she told SIL that she needed a gown too. (I told her to wear her tigger nightgown).
-Bride picked out SILs dress at the thrift store. When SIL bought it, she brought it over to her house. She then got yelled at for not putting it in the dryer as soon as she got there (in case of bedbugs).
-They requested gift cards on the shower and wedding invite. There was no stamp or return address on the RSVP card.
Now, if there were a hardship, I really wouldn't care. The bride has her degree in elementary education, but isn't using it because she makes way more in her current job. She lived with her parents until November, where her only bill was her car (which was long ago paid off). She put 50% cash down on a house for she and her FI to live in. Her dad even paid her car insurance. She is 31. This is 9 years of maybe $400 a month in expenses.
So... would you go? Knowing that your reason is just to watch the train wreck?
Re: To go or not to go...
To watch a good train wreck? Oh Hellz yeah!!! But maybe my DH and I are just mean. Plus we don't yet have a kid to tote.
But yeah, trainwrecks=awesomeness. I love your Tigger nightgown idea. "But you SAID evening gown..."
Oooh,, oooh, another idea. Since they requested gift cards, get them some ridiculously hideous little decorative piece. Extra points if its from the thrift store.
Dont' forget to grab some McDonalds.
sounds like your sil wants you there for company. The no music reception sounds boring and I think she would rather hang out with you guys. i think the few of you should order some delivery pizza or chinese...
And love the nightgown idea
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Southern babtist wedding receptions don't have music and dancing. I did go to wedding here where the bride/groom did one first dance and that was it. I thought it was unusual, but it isn't for weddings around here. Neither is the no dinner thing. We had to specifically put on our invite that we were serving a meal and there would be dancing. People would have shown up full and expecting to leave an hour later. Well, on the grooms side at least. So that doesn't seem that unusual to me.
But, I do love watching a good train wreck, so I would good if thought I would see something awesome.
I wouldn't go, but only because it sounds like a total drag. No food, no booze, no music... what do people do?
And if I showed up to a wedding like that without knowing that was the plan, I'd probably pull a Jeff Spicoli and get a pizza delivered to the reception hall... and then pull out my flask (or in juslyn's case, her half gallon.)
Side note: While I know the general consensus is that fountain cakes are tacky, I've never seen one and in my head they look really cool. Off to google some pictures...
ETA: LMAO! Ok, I get it now.
I have GOT to know what you were picturing in your head. Pretty please?
You sit around and make small talk while dying of boredom. At least that is what I do when we attend these types of weddings. They suuuuuuuuuck. Unless of course it is a complete train wreck. Haha.
No, no, I totally understand. Its kinda funny though.
Side note: One of my really good friends' moms fancy's herself a wedding cake maker, and as a "wedding gift" she made cakes for several of my friends. All fountain wedding cakes, with those tier things, and the little step things. *Sigh* She's seriously the sweetest lady in the world so I struggled with my feelings on it...its just...yeah, they're fountain cakes.
I had no idea what a fountain cake was either. I'm still not sure I get it. Do you actually drink out of the little fountain? Or is it just for show?
Google images does a pretty good job. The fountain is for decoration. It essentially is a cake design straight out of the '70s (maybe '80s, depending upon region).
The fun ones actually have multiple small cakes with little ladder/step/bridge things running between them. Extra points if there's fake ivy on there somewhere.
If they were Baptist, I could understand it. Nope. SIL even asked if they could have music for the little kids to dance to and the bride said no. I'm not 100% on the fountain, but SIL said that's what she was looking at. As for a fountain cake:
My mom had one at her wedding.
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Dude. Seriously. I would be in on your pizza fo' sho'
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