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What makes you anxious about being single?
If anything of course.
For me it's knowing that if the sh!t hits the fan in any way, I am on my own. It scares me. My family and very close friends live on another continent. I have good friends here but I've known them for less than 2 years so the friendship is still new.
I don't even know who to pick for my emergency contact.
Re: What makes you anxious about being single?
Um...all of it?
Not having anyone there for me in the last years of my life, emotionally, physically, and financially.
I want to have at least one child, and I'll be 34 in a few weeks, so time isn't on my side.
Not having anyone to help financially if something were to happen and I had to be out of work for an extended period of time. Or, well, any other financial emergency, really.
Not having someone to really lean on in hard times and times of grief.
And ever freaking time I try to open a damn spaghetti sauce jar, I can never get the effing thing open. It's little stupid things like that, or fixing the smallest of things around the house that I just can't do, that make me feel so...helpless, I guess.
OP: I think you'd be surprised at how people you've known under 2 years will still help you out in a time of crisis.
For me, I have an irrational fear of never having a family. It's irrational because I'm still quite young and I have absolutely zero desire to procreate in the next 10 years. I just have this nagging fear that I'm never going to find a real partner or someone who I can build a strong family with.
Someone breaking in and seeing if I actually have the balls to fire my gun.
Nothing I can think of now. I'm actually really excited about being single and being on my own. I'm very close to my family, so I know I can count on them for anything.
Granted, I'm only two months into my separation, and I'm currently living with my parents. I may feel differently at some point.
Never finding "the one" for me.
Being single forever, I want kids and I will have a kid with or without someone by the time I am 35/36.
I need to stop watching marathons of Criminal Minds and freaking out at the possibility of someone breaking into my house and killing my cat.. not me..but my CAT!!! Always being the one at functions without a significant other - since most of my friends are married or have a significant other...really gets under my skin. That the stigma of being separate or divorces makes people believe that I'm the fvcked up one that couldn't make her marriage work... and the possibility of never having kids.
I'm anxious about being my nephews crazy aunt. You know the quirky awesome aunt who is great with kids never had any of her own? Yeah so I guess I'm anxious about not finding someone and having kids of my own.
Other than that, I have a great support system and I know I could lean on my family for anything. No real anxiety here.
Hit the rim of the lid with a spoon or the dull side of a knife a few times. This always does the trick for me!
LOL, I use the underside of my kitchen rug, it's the grippy kind and it does the trick. I thought that was pretty creative
I have got a jar opener that is awesome (http://www.pamperedchef.com/ordering/prod_details.tpc?prodId=8762&words=jar opener)
Also, I've found that I can a video on youtube of pretty much anything, so any repairs I need I look them up and figure it out from there!
I don't know if I would say anxious... But I want DD to have a sibling. I know that doing it on my own is always a possibility but that would be further down the road when I am more financially stable, if at all.
I am not selfish enough to do anything like run out and get KU, so don't worry
I just think about how much I would love to be in a situation to give DD a sibling sooner rather than later.