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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
If you are older and trying to get pg
Don't watch dr. Oz today. It's pretty depressing and discouraging that it isn't going to happen for me.
Re: If you are older and trying to get pg
Katie Talks About...
Don't get discouraged. It happens for women your age and older all the time.
ETA: I got pg with N at 36 on the first month of trying. When I TTC #2 this past summer, at 41, I ended up stopping sooner than I had planned because of my particular numbers but mostly because it was much more emotionally draining than I had counted on and, as a single parent, felt like it was interfering with taking care of N, because I was so stressed out about it all the time and I have no other grown up to share that stress with. If I didn't have N already, or if I was still married, I would have kept trying until it happened.
I know a lot of what he says is quack, but here he has both sides and the statyistics against it are completely depressing. ( they are ones I've heard before - I just try to ignore)
Thanks for the positive info Katie! I'll try to remember that instead.
By older on the show they are primarily talking 40+, but several speakers have discussed late 30s as well.
I don't know if this will help, but I conceived DS at 38, after 6 months of trying without intervention (but charting) and 2 months of clomid, then conceived on a break cycle. Throughout my prenatal appts in Boulder, several times I mentioned being AMA, and every time, they told me that my 38 was SO not old for their practice. Some of nature is working against you, but it's not so bleak. There are tons of us on the +35 boards.
Now at 42, we are 20 cycles into trying for a DC#2, and we have an appt Monday to get ball rolling on one IVF cycle as a last ditch. A friend of mine is the embryologist at the center we are switching to, and they have relatively amazing results for my age group, but it's still 38%. I don't care, I have faith that it's gonna work.
My mom and MIL were born 3 weeks apart, were married a year apart, and they had me and DH a year and 3 weeks apart, in their late 20s, and then no more bio kids. My gram had my mom in her mid 20s, and no more bio kids. That part of course seriously depresses me. But what I have to remember is that gram's mom had her at 47. Yes, 47, in 1918. Gram's next oldest sib was 16 and the rest were married except for the other one who was serving in WWI when she was born. So from her story, I have faith. Also have faith that we will conceive on one of these 2 off cycles before the IVF process starts.
I hope this was helpful and not annoying. I'm running out the door and am deciding to post rather than my normal delete
Katie Talks About...
DD -- 5YO
DS -- 3YO
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My grandmother had my uncle when she was in her 40s with no intervention and my dad after that.
Also, I want to say that statistics are crap. As my surgeon said, "Your personal odds are either 0 or 100%." That can feel depressing or it can feel empowering (I try to choose empowering when I can). Just because the odds seem like they are against you doesn't make anything impossible, or even unlikely. Plus, Nestie juju is pretty damn powerful :-)
4 losses: Blighted ovum 1/11, CP 12/11, CP 3/12, and our perfectly healthy baby girl Charlotte Grace, missed M/C 5/31/12 at 8w5d
Surprise unmedicated BFP 9/21/12!! Beta #1 9/22 (10 DPO): 46 Beta #2 9/24 (12 DPO): 226! Heartbeat 136 bpm at 7w! It's a BOY! Theodore Joshua 5/23/13 7:36am 7lb 13 oz, 19.25 in
The episode really made me want to study the mental health side of infertility for couples. I've known it was a heavy topic and obviously very emotional but holy cow, I may have found a new calling as a counselor!
FTR, I didn't like that it was ONLY about the female body and how it ages... as if all infertility issues are with the female part of the couple! I was talking to DH about it last night and he said that he feels (he's very sensitive and we talk about feelings... yes, be jealous!) that men are often overlooked during ttc, infertility, and pregnancy loss and people assume that it's a women's issue (both physically and emotionally). I was bummed that Dr. Oz and the guests completely overlooked the male side of things.