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Real issue in "Brother's Wedding" post
Libby1990, here is something you put in your followup on the Knot. This is the root of your issue:
**Okay, I think everyone is totally missing the point here.
**The point is that he lives in the same house with me, and now it's gonig to be about **two weddings, my parents are going to give me only 50 percent..and my crunch time **for my wedding (a week before) is going to be their crunch time.
**Not to mention that our bridal showers are going to be around the same time. It's a **financial burden on all our guests...and my parents...and us because now we're **getting married and have to turn around and buy them a gift and i'm still in school.
Problem: Your parents cut your funding by half because your brother is getting married. I can appreciate your frustration at being promised $xxx and planning your budget accordingly and then only getting $xxx because your parents want to contribute to your brother's wedding. That is really crummy. I am sure that you would have understood if your parents had fallen on hard economic times or your brother needed life saving surgery, but they didn't, your brother just couldn't bear to let you have this.
But your anger is turned on the wrong person. You should be angry with your parents. They have allowed you and your brother to be hostile to one another for years. They have never insisted that you treat each other civilly or with love and consideration.
They have taken money promised to you that had been budgeted by you and gave it to him. Instead of sitting your brother down and saying "We have promised your sister this amount of money and she has based her plans on our commitment. If you want to get married this year, we will be able to contribute only this amount. If you want to get married next year, we will be able to provide more." Reneging on their promise to you because of an impulsive act on the part of your brother shows that there is favortism in your household - and that is likely to have been problem your entire life.
Note that I am ignoring the facts that you and your brother still live at home with your parents, you are still in school and your hysterical posts indicate a lack of maturity that doesn't bode well for your marital future. You sound like you are 12, not 22. Personally, I would cancel your wedding for the time being, move in with your fiance, get a taste of adult life and then (after your brother's impromptu marriage has imploded) get married.
Re: Real issue in "Brother's Wedding" post
This is the real issue.
She stated in another post that she is paying for the wedding 100%"
".Also, I think i wasn't understood about the whole parents thing. My parents aren't giving us any money, we are paying for the whole thing by ourselves."
So, one of the posts is obviously BS.
I think she means the gift. That whatever gift she would get from her parents would now be cut in half to give the same to the brother. And she's quite clear that she thinks this is going to happen wiht all of her guests, too - that they'll pay for an extra flight and wedding and it will cut into her $$$$ gifts.
And the attention. She's loosing a lot of attention.
Making for a lovely bride.