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Have you ever been to an evening wedding reception without dancing?
If so, did most people leave soon after dinner?
If you haven't been to one, would you be disappointed and probably not stay?
Re: Have you ever been to an evening wedding reception without dancing?
Are you considering skipping the dancing? BUT WHAT ABOUT THE POLKA?!?!
I can't remember ever going to a reception without dancing. There have been one or two with some pretty lame dance floors. Sometimes that was due to the crowd, sometimes the music.
As to how long I would stay at a reception without dancing... It's hard to say really. If I didn't know anyone but my date and the bride, I would feel a little out of place and would probably take off early, open bar or not. I would stay much longer if I knew lots of people there. Then, I would take advantage of the situation and catch up with people and get my drink on.
eta: Taking off early, meaning after dinner and a time long enough so that I didn't feel rude.
We stayed for the majority of the reception, but bowed out after the toasts. I can't say I was disappointed, but I was expecting something different.
Apparently his family does not dance and that's half of our guest list. about 1/2 of my family will dance, but I hate to pay all of that money for a DJ for 10 people to dance. Also, his family has a 2-3 hr drive home so they won't be staying very late.
I'm conflicted at to what to do!
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Do you know anyone who does DJ work on the side? Also - you may ask your venue if they have ipod/speaker hookups where you can create a playlist - I have been to weddings where that's what they did.
We actually have a friend who does DJ work on the side and he is pretty inexpensive compared to the companies around here that we decided the money is worth it rather than worrying about an ipod playlist or what not.
I don't think I've been to any receptions without dancing in the evening. I did go to one that was an afternoon wedding and there wasn't a lot (if any) dancing, but I didn't leave early. I spent a lot of time hanging out with friends and enjoying the food/drink.
How does a whole family just not dance? Is this a religious thing or is someone being stubborn? Although I find this hard to believe, if it is indeed true, I would skip the DJ and work on a playlist. Are you doing it at the wine bar?
I bet a couple of people dance anyway if there is space.
The place that we're looking at tonight has a set-up where we could use our iPod and they provide music during dinner. We don't know anyone who does that type of thing as a side business/hobby. I really want the whole first dance, father/daughter dance, etc. I know that sounds cheesy, but that's one of the things that I was looking forward to.
THe cheapest I've found for a DJ service is $700 (they would give me $100 discount because I went to high school with the owner which would bring it down to $600).
We were thinking of opting for a photobooth instead for some type of entertainment. But you can do that just so many times and then that gets old too.
I've been to weddings where dancing was an option and no one got up (awkward). But I've never been to one where there just wasn't dancing. When you think about it, it's kind of a silly thing that we all expect a wedding to turn in to a dance party... but that's just the way things are.
Given space and music (and alcohol), people will dance. I didn't expect anyone to at my wedding since the reception was noon to 5, but the thing was like a midday rave. Open bar plays.
If you're looking to save money or you think no one will dance, I agree with making it more of a cocktail hour with some background music. And if you want the first dance and the father/daughter dance, then put those songs on the iPod and have a member of the bridal party play them for you. First dance was important to me, I think you should get it if you want it.
We did not have dancing. Our reception was held in a cozy restaurant/pub, so for after dinner entertainment we had a bunch of board games that people could play in the pub area. There was also darts. It was a lot of fun and surprisingly family friendly.
I only remembered to burn a few CDs' worth of music to play in the background for the evening like two days before the wedding.
I do think people need something to do after dinner that facilitates mingling among the guests promote the idea that the two different "sides" have had a shared experience together, as a means of bonding your two networks together in mutual support of your marriage.
To follow on the others - so much of it is an "it depends".
If there is also no alcohol, I can actually guarentee that we wouldn't be sticking around too long.
Past that, it depends on who else I know there, and then the overall atmosphere.
I go to parties occasionally where there isn't dancing, but there is good background music and there is an "energy" in the air that keeps people talking and having fun.
If you have a cool location and you can make it more clubby/ cocktail like - I could see it not needing dancing.
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We decided against the wine bar because the parking really sucks (metered street parking and it's right next to a bar that gets a lot of Saturday night business).
At his niece's wedding last year the only people dancing were the couple's friends and the groom's family. So, maybe a few people might dance, but it's highly unlikely from what I can tell.
There will definitely be alcohol...open bar with wine and beer.
I've been to one and it was no biggie. They played music on an iPod (actually then it was CDs). There was alcohol, so it was more like a large dinner party.
BF and I have been talking about what we want to do whent he time comes. I had the big song and dance for my first wedding and don't want to do it again. He doesn't like being the center of attention and does not like dancing. We have agreed that when it is time, we will gather some friends and family on the beach near our house, say some vows and then walk up the street to a nice restaurant we like that has a private room and have a nice dinner with family and friends. No dancing, no traditional wedding stuff. Just us, vows, family and food.
About 95% of the weddings I've been to have been dancing and alcohol free. (Religious people know how to partay!!)
I think if you make it a cocktail hour-y feel with background music so people can mingle and dance if they want, that will work well - at my wedding with XH we had "optional dancing" and used an iPod for the music.
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LOL...well, since his family lives a few hours away, I'm not too worried about how boring they are. Unless, of course, you know something I don't know about families who don't dance!
LOL...well, since his family lives a few hours away, I'm not too worried about how boring they are. Unless, of course, you know something I don't know about families who don't dance!
Yes, yay for weddings! It's a lot more fun (and stressful) than I thought it would be!