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Open mouth and for once don't insert foot
Please tell me I'm acting like a stupid schoolgirl and to calmmyshit, first of all, because I'm super excited about date 2 tomorrow and very giddy about this guy already. J, the guy from Saturday, called tonight and we talked on the phone for an hour. I'm normally somewhat reserved and cautious when talking to someone in the beginning, but he has me just letting my words tumble out like I have no filter. I usually get kinda self conscious about my accent and am worried about saying something dumb, but with him, it's like talking to an old friend. I just...speak...and don't think about it. I don't think about what to say or how to say it or what topics to avoid, I just talk.
I always get tongue tied around cute guys, and he is by FAR the cutest guy I've ever gone out with, but yet he made me so comfortable on our first date that I felt like I was with someone I'd known forever, not some hot guy that I wanted to jump the minute I laid eyes on him, lol
It's been years since someone knocked my socks off on the first date, and I considered my socks blown after about an hour with him. And you would think that because of this, I'd be very nervous and cautious, but I'm not. And it's just downright weird. I don't know what to make of it.
Shiz needs brought back down to earth, please.
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Re: Open mouth and for once don't insert foot
Well that's exciting but it's important to be realistic... date #2 might not go well, he might be dating other people that he connects with more (happens more if you meet online), or many other reasons. It's fun when you feel comftorable with someone right from the start... it's a great feeling!
However I don't give much attention or get too excited about a good first date - they are pretty easy to achieve, especially if the person dates frequently and is reasonably attractive/funny/interesting. If I still feel excited after date 4 or 5 I let myself get interested in a deeper way. The first date is just a meeting in my mind. You really don't know the person and he doesn't know you.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
Yup, I vote for this too. What's wrong with having something to look forward to (guy/romance related or not)? Just allow yourself to feel what you want and BE happy! If it is a dud of a date, then oh well, at least you enjoyed the anticipation of looking forward to a fun evening. And if it's great, then GREAT!
Side note kind of but I think sometimes we try to check our emotions too much, especially if they're positive ones. Don't overthink it, go with how you're feeling and have a great time!
I agree! Enjoy the giddy--embrace it! Have fun and report back
I think its awesome you met someone you are this excited about. You're smart and you made a good decision on weird stalker guy. You don't come across as someone who wants to be in a relationship so badly she will overlook horrific red flags. And while getting this excited gives you more of an opportunity to be hurt...so what? If you don't give yourself a chance to be hurt you'll never give yourself a chance to be in a good relationship.
So give yourself permission to be excited and giddy. Trust yourself to keep it in check and not call him nine million times a day. You already know that if you wind up disappointed you're strong enough to get through it, so just enjoy this part.