Hypothetical - if you suspected your DH/SO was guilty of murder

wrysmyguy

(unintentional murder if it makes a difference) would you lie for him/her and try to cover up? Can't go into details but it came up in a case today.

 

Me, I don't think so. I don't know if I would report it (and that makes me pause) but I don't think I'd cover it u and I would be too afraid to perjure myself to lie about ti in court.

LaVitaBella

Hmmm. I think I'd be so anxiety ridden I couldn't physically donit. A true accident or like they went to confront someone, got in a fight and the person died?

mrs.marie.g

um no. i love ken and all but no. if its a mistake its a mistake and hopefully the court of law will prove that.

i wouldn't take csi detectives on myself. im not that smart. i mean i do watch a lot o crime tv but beacuse of that i KNOW im not that smart

 

N&V0514

I would probably do my best to help him cover it up.Unless he went completely  insane and is hurting innocent people or something. Depends on teh circumstances but most likely would help him

ghl

As much as I joke around about helping my friends hide a body and vice versa when they're frustrated with a family member, I don't think I could ever think clearly enough to do it. I'd probably be freaking out too much, and I don't think I could bring myself to lie under oath. At best, I might calm down enough to talk to a lawyer to see how much I can legally remain silent since presumably I'd be subpoenaed to testify. I wouldn't turn him in myself though but knowing DH, he'd probably confess and turn himself in and just see where the judicial system takes him.

ddelo23

I honestly don't know.  I asked my husband the same question the other day too - if I killed someone, whould he cover for me.  He said he would, if it wasn't done out of craziness and was an accident....that's a really, really tough question though!

turtle520

I know for a fact that the truth always comes out in the end. ALWAYS. So no, I would urge him to go to the authorities and if he didn't, for the sake of our family I would turn him in.

Things like like this can RUIN a family and if it was an accident I would want the truth to come out on our terms before the police showed up at my door. And they would, trust me, I know. 

TSD

No, I don't think I would. I'm a bad liar, have a bad short term memory, and it seems these days, you always get caught. If this was in the Boardwalk Empire times, it would be a different story. It was fairly easy to get away with stuff like just ripping up someone's will in front of the executor and have that be the end of it. Now, with technology, it's too risky. We'd all go down.

LaVitaBella

I'm hypothetically suh a bad person. I immediately thought about how that would probably f up my entire life....no more money, I'd have to go back to work, no adopting a second baby, I'd have to sell the house.......murder is so inconvenient.

turtle520

LaVitaBella:

I'm hypothetically suh a bad person. I immediately thought about how that would probably f up my entire life....no more money, I'd have to go back to work, no adopting a second baby, I'd have to sell the house.......murder is so inconvenient.

You have no idea how true that statement is.

debfife

I couldn't. I'm not a good liar. And I would hope if it was an accident that truth would come out.

MrsDB

i think i would. if it really was an honest mistake that would ruin our lives forever, something that he really had no intention of doing and just a complete freak accident... but i was pretty sure it'd mean him going to jail and my kids being labeled children of a murderer. i don't think i'd tell anyone anything. i'm not a good liar, but i can shrug and act like i don't know anything. if my husband actually chose to murder someone, or was involved in something where murder is known to happen, i have no idea how i'd feel. it's hard because i know my husband. it'd really be a leap to think of him as a violent person with murdurous capabilities. i'd hope i'd realize he's not the person i thought he was and do what i needed to do.

MrsDB

Turtle i'm starting to think you've murdered people. 

MrsGabbs4Ed

debfife:

I couldn't. I'm not a good liar. And I would hope if it was an accident that truth would come out.

Pretty much this!!!!

jessNdean

MrsDB:

Turtle i'm starting to think you've murdered people. 

lmao!!!

 

and to answer the question...I watch too much forensic files on trutv to ever cover up anything!!!

Truth always comes out whether it is 20 years from now! So that would definitely be a HELL no!! I'd stand behind my H all the way if i knew it was an accident. But he would have to turn himself in or I would, I couldn't live with that.

turtle520

MrsDB:

Turtle i'm starting to think you've murdered people. 

Nope. But I know someone who did.

Hows that for a confession. 

colleen724

Never.  Its not just "me and him" anymore.  I'm not leaving my kids to the foster system or family members.  It all comes out in the end, everyone gets caught.

Kittycat196

colleen724:

Never.  Its not just "me and him" anymore.  I'm not leaving my kids to the foster system or family members.  It all comes out in the end, everyone gets caught.

Good point! My first thought was that I would cover for him but now that we have kids I guess it would be smarter to tell the truth but that would kill me and scare me to death.

GilliMax

No way. And, even if it were an accident it wouldn't be for not WANTING to help.. but my conscious couldn't take it.

Liz051405

I would certainly not cover it up. And if I suspected that mh killed someone (especially an accident) and he wasn't already taking the legal measures to handle it I would seriously question how much I knew the man I was married to.

But this is coming from a woman that just last night told her husband that if he was ever in jail he wouldn't be getting any conjugal visits unless I was damn sure he was wrongly convicted. (See the crap MH's job makes us discuss. lol)

jenga

I don't think I could cover it up...and if DH didn't do the right thing, I don't think I'd stick around too much longer....I wouldn't want to leave my son parentless.

kellyann1972

wrysmyguy:

(unintentional murder if it makes a difference) would you lie for him/her and try to cover up? Can't go into details but it came up in a case today.

 

Me, I don't think so. I don't know if I would report it (and that makes me pause) but I don't think I'd cover it u and I would be too afraid to perjure myself to lie about ti in court.

your second sentence. I am a firm believer in my "old age" that I have no clue until I am there of what I would or wouldn't do. Ask this about "your child" there was a great movie on this called "The Good Son".  

turtle520

kellyann1972:

wrysmyguy:

(unintentional murder if it makes a difference) would you lie for him/her and try to cover up? Can't go into details but it came up in a case today.

 

Me, I don't think so. I don't know if I would report it (and that makes me pause) but I don't think I'd cover it u and I would be too afraid to perjure myself to lie about ti in court.

your second sentence. I am a firm believer in my "old age" that I have no clue until I am there of what I would or wouldn't do. Ask this about "your child" there was a great movie on this called "The Good Son".  

That movie scared the everlivingcrap out of me. And I saw it way before I was even thinking about having my own children. I can't even fathom having to admit that your kid is screwed in the head. It's like that movie, "We need to talk about Kevin."