Possibly flameful confession

Beth&Derek

I posted a week or two ago about my dad's gf's grandson who was born Jan. 15th and was in the NICU. Well, he's making lots of progress, but he's still in the hospital and it looks like it'll be another week or two before he's able to come home.

The baby's mother's family is putting together a fundraiser to help them with medical bills. It's a sweet gesture on their parts and the tickets are only $10, so DH and I really should go, but part of me doesn't want to. This is their second child and the mother stopped working when she was 6 months pregnant with the first (in 2008). She hasn't worked since, but they haven't changed their spending habits at all. They ended up letting their house go into foreclosure last year while still going to all kinds of expensive concerts and sporting events and buying all of the latest gadgets that they "needed." Also, the two of them are constantly tagging themselves at restaurants on facebook. If they need financial help so badly, maybe they should start trying to eat at home more....this was common even before the new baby was born, so it's  not because they're visiting him that they're eating out.

Ugh. I feel like a terrible person even typing all of this, but I really feel like they're in  bad spot financially because of their own crazy spending and while these medical bills aren't their fault at all, they might have more available funds to pay the bills if they weren't so bad with money.

mrs.dilligaf

No, I get you.  I can't stand when people complain about being broke and go out all the time.  I'd probably still do the $10, but I know where you're coming from.

swimmerette00

mrs.dilligaf:

No, I get you.  I can't stand when people complain about being broke and go out all the time.  I'd probably still do the $10, but I know where you're coming from.

This exactly.

MrsG.060708

swimmerette00:

mrs.dilligaf:

No, I get you.  I can't stand when people complain about being broke and go out all the time.  I'd probably still do the $10, but I know where you're coming from.

This exactly.

Same here. Don't feel bad!

Rangergal9

mrs.dilligaf:

No, I get you.  I can't stand when people complain about being broke and go out all the time.  I'd probably still do the $10, but I know where you're coming from.

I'd do the same.... but I cannot stand when people complain about having no money and yet they buy this and that and eat out all the time. 

Beth&Derek

Yeah, I'm most likely going to send the $20 for DH and me even if we don't end up going to the fundraiser, but I needed to vent about it to you ladies, of course.

bbetson

I totally understand where you are coming from. No flames from me. I would probably send the money, but not go to the fundraiser.

mucutiepie124

bbetson:

I totally understand where you are coming from. No flames from me. I would probably send the money, but not go to the fundraiser.

Ditto this!

Fraux

I can definitely see where you're coming from and agree with you. I would pay the $20, but just not go.

The Big D

Fraux:

I can definitely see where you're coming from and agree with you. I would pay the $20, but just not go.

Agreed.  I don't think its flameful.  Some people just don't know how to manage their money.

613marriedlady

I totally get it. I would probably go, since it's an organized thing, but I wouldn't help out extra.