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Is she set on that dress- can you go shopping with her and try it on and let her see it won't look good? I would be honest, I was happy when my bridesmaids were honest- I wouldn't be mean- but I would say while it is a very pretty dress, I am unsure of the shape-
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Hmmm....I think I agree with Amy...if she's over the moon in love with this dress, you just need to suck it up and wear it. If she's "thinking" about it, you might want to say you aren't sure how it would look on, and maybe it's a good idea to get the girl together and try it on for size.
Good luck! I've never met a bridesmaid's dress I liked! (Except for my own wedding, lol, which I picked out.) Not sure my girls all agreed....
No, it's a very distinct style.
She sent a group text that said "what does everyone think of this dress?"
I am thinking maybe I will just tell her I am scheduling plastic surgery!
that's true.....I can see her maybe seeing it on and not choosing it.
sigh I will keep you guys posted.
Try not to freak - I had this dress as my BM dress (MOHs in this color and BMs in brown) and some full-figured girls in my bridal party - with the alterations done to make the dress fit well it actually looked really good on everyone. It might not be as bad as you think.... good luck!
there's no way that looked good on everyone. just that belt alone would be like writing MOOOOO across my waist!
THAT is the style of it! believe me when I tell you it will NOT LOOK GOOD ON ME! hahahaa
ditto. I would just say, "I don't know if you realized this or were trying to be nice by not noticing, I'm a lot bigger than your other girls. I'm totally not trying to ruin or hijack your planning, but this dress will look awful on me and I don't want to ruin your photos. Honestly it would also just make me feel very self conscious. So if there's any way I could try something else that would complement it in the same color and fabric, I would really appreciate it." Or something to that effect. I wouldn't just let it go, but that's me.
Well she asked what you thought so I think the door is wide open to tell her nicely you don't think that style is going to work for you.
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I agree, anyone can really wear most styles if its fitted properly. Its all about the proper fit with a good seamstress.
I know I'm in the minority but I would never pay for a dress that I didn't look good in. I didn't have a bridal party (just a MOH since our wedding was tiny) but if we had done a big wedding i would have let my BMs pick whatever they liked in the chosen color. I don't get why everyone has to match. Unless all your friends look exactly the same there's no way one dress will look good for everyone.
I'd let her know it doesn't work for you and ask her to let you pick something that is more flattering. But that's me.
I think this. It sounds like she is honestly asking opinions and an answer like this is good in that it isn't just "hate this dress" but rather a good explanation of why so if she goes to look for something else she knows what to consider.
But I also let my girls pick there own dress for this reason (and surprisingly enough they all choose the same one) .
Are you not all going to try on dresses together? If not, and you're just sending in your measurements and ordering a dress you've never tried on, then that's the only circumstance under which I'd say it would be OK to voice your dissent.
Otherwise, I think you're raising a ruckus for nothing. Any time I've been involved in BM dress shopping, we've gone in with pictures of what we thought would work, and always (seriously, ALWAYS) ended up getting something completely different that worked on everyone. Assuming you're going in person to seeand try on dresses, I'd bite my tongue. You may be surprised.
ETA: If you're eventually overruled and the majority picks a dress you don't love, Spanx it up or bow out if you're really uncomfortable. I'm of the mindset that a well-tailored dress can look good on any body. And on the flippity, if I were a bridesmaid who rocked and loved the dress, but then had to settle and pay for a more conservative/frumpy/matronly dress because one of the other girls didn't feel good in the one I liked, I'd be just as pissed as you are. Just sayin'.