WWYD?

dmendel

I have a lot of family in Toronto.  We have an aunt who is 93 and she is really started to deteriorate.  My mom is pretty close to her.  My mom asked if she can take Abby up to Toronto for a 3 day weekend in June.  I told her I needed to think about it.  Mh and I aren't sure.  I think going through the airport will be rough, but other then that my mom will be with family.  Abby is pretty easy, and I totally trust my mom with her.  My father might go with her too.  This would be Abby's third trip to Toronto, we were there last year, so she is a little familiar with the family up there.  Would you let her take her?  I know its weird question, but I just don't know why I would say no, but yes didn't just automatically come out of me.

Melanie2003

if i trusted my mom and knew my kid was 100% comfortable with my mom, then i would.

 

JennyBS

Can you go along with her for the trip?

tara07733

If you trust your mom with her I would let her go in a heartbeat. I don't see any negatives. She can bond with your mother and extended family for a couple days and you and YH get some couple time which is never bad. I don't think you'd regret it.

dmendel

JennyBS:

Can you go along with her for the trip?

I sorta want to go, but I don't think my mom wants me to go!  She wants to just go with Abby!  LOL 

kellyann1972

I cant remember but I dont think yo work right? I would make it a mutli generational girls trip and go along. But I would probably be fine with letting my child go with my parents.

oct11bride03

I wouldn't, but we've had some issues with K sleeping over at my parent's house recently (them not doing what we ask).

I think this is a pretty personal thing that depends on (1) your kid (2) your comfort level with your parents' handling of your kid and (3) their desire to take on a stressful situation.

A plane trip is stressful for the two of us, but K is younger than A. If A has done well with you guys she might be OK with just your mom. There's a lot of logistics your mom might not be thinking about, though. Carseat in the seat on the plane, lugging that thing around, rental car/getting the seat into a family member's car, chasing a toddler around an airport, dealing with delays, etc.

Liz051405

Possibly. The only "sticking" point I'd have is that I'm not sure I'd let them take her to another country. BUT I suppose if it weren't for the fact that my passport is expired, I'd let them.

atwood345

I consider my parents just as trustworthy as myself or MH so no doubt I'd let them take one of my kids. If you trust your mom, then why not?

dmendel

atwood345:

I consider my parents just as trustworthy as myself or MH so no doubt I'd let them take one of my kids. If you trust your mom, then why not?

My mom is great with her.  Abby is familiar with the house she would be at.  She has stayed at my cousins house before.   She had a  blast last year when we took her to Toronto.  The only thing that worries me is all the shleping she would have to do in the airport.  If my dad goes with her, then it would be fine.  I dunno, for some reason, I couldn't just say yes.  

mbcdefg

tara07733:

If you trust your mom with her I would let her go in a heartbeat. I don't see any negatives. She can bond with your mother and extended family for a couple days and you and YH get some couple time which is never bad.

Ditto.

Even if your daughter wasn't really happy during the trip, I can't imagine anything that'd occur that would leave her permanantly scarred from the experience, KWIM? If she gets cranky on the plane or at the house then it's your mom's job to soothe her ... or is your daughter the type to hold onto a bad situation for days and days afterward and that is what you're trying to avoid?

I'm kind of puzzled as to why you weren't asked to go see the aunt as well, though (unless your mom knows that the answer would be no because of work or whatever?). Not even in a "You're taking my baby away" situation, I mean in a, "This relative may not have time left and the family should see her, except for you" situation. Unless you don't get along with the aunt or your mother?

mrs.marie.g

sure if i trusted my mother like you say you do/ the airport won't be as tough with her as you think. especially with the amount of luggage they'll have for just three days. i freaked out about the trip to fl with belle and she was TOTALLY fine. i think we work ourselves up more about things/

dmendel

mbcdefg:

tara07733:

If you trust your mom with her I would let her go in a heartbeat. I don't see any negatives. She can bond with your mother and extended family for a couple days and you and YH get some couple time which is never bad.

Ditto.

Even if your daughter wasn't really happy during the trip, I can't imagine anything that'd occur that would leave her permanantly scarred from the experience, KWIM? If she gets cranky on the plane or at the house then it's your mom's job to soothe her ... or is your daughter the type to hold onto a bad situation for days and days afterward and that is what you're trying to avoid?

I'm kind of puzzled as to why you weren't asked to go see the aunt as well, though (unless your mom knows that the answer would be no because of work or whatever?). Not even in a "You're taking my baby away" situation, I mean in a, "This relative may not have time left and the family should see her, except for you" situation. Unless you don't get along with the aunt or your mother?

 

Abby doesn't hold a grudge.  She was on a plane once when she was 9 months old, and she was fine.  The plane ride is barely an hour.  ( We drove last year)  If if she is cranky, its a short ride.  

I dunno why my mom didn't ask me to go, I think it was just something she wanted to do with Abby.   

JSK71606

If I'm not mistaken, there might be some issues with your mom taking her out of the country without you. May want to look into that.

mrs.marie.g

JSK71606:

If I'm not mistaken, there might be some issues with your mom taking her out of the country without you. May want to look into that.

I think you might need to give her guardianship for the trip bu thats pretty easy from what i understand

MrsDB

If it were my mom- yes. If it were my MIL- no. And that's based on how comfortable my kids are with them. If your daughter is really comfortable with your mom, and has preferably slept over with her before (or she slept at your house without you there) and everything was fine, I'd let her go.  I'm not really into traveling without me, but for a 93 year old, yeah. 

dmendel

mrs.marie.g:

JSK71606:

If I'm not mistaken, there might be some issues with your mom taking her out of the country without you. May want to look into that.

I think you might need to give her guardianship for the trip bu thats pretty easy from what i understand

Yeah we will look into that.  When I took Abby when she was 9 months old with just my mom, we had stuff notorized that I was taking out of the country w/o mh.  Nobody even looked at it! 

Pixiestx

I wouldn't because Teagan has never slept away from our house without one of us.  The one time we tried to have her do a sleep over at a neighbors house she didn't want to at all. The only reason she slept there was because she knew we were coming to get her late.  I also think my mom isn't as on top of things as I would like, which is fine for watching her at our house for the day, but not for a 3 day weekend involving travel.  That being said, I'm sure without those reasons I would still have a hard time saying yes since I'm not good at letting go like that.