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Daycare and Yelling Question
For those of you with kids in daycare, please tell me if I am over-reacting. I usually drop off my only during typical pick up and drop off times. Today I brought him around 10:30. As I pull up, I see the 2-3 year old class (my son is 18 mos) walking to the playground. All the kids are holding onto a rope as they cross through the parking lot to the playground (parking lot at this time is closed and there are no cars in it). A little girl lets go of the rope and starting running to the playground (not the street or any cars or anything). A teacher runs to her, picks her up, and brings her back. Another teacher basically gets down on her knees, in the girls face, and is holding her arms down, and literally screaming at the top of her lungs at the girl. I was so far away and could hear the entire thing. And the yelling was just excessive, over the top. The teacher saw me and kind of calmed down, but I had already seen too much.
I went to the director and told them what happened and although he said it was unacceptable he basically defended the teacher saying that "she is one of the best" and that he knew which kid it probably was, which insinuated that he thought the girl was a problem child. He said he'd take care of it.
I don't know what I expected but I wasa really put off by the director's response. Also, if this teacher is going to be my kid's teacher next year I have a huge problem with that. I know they have to discipline but this seemed excessive.
I don't have any other kids and I'm not sure how other daycares handle discipline situations...am I overreacting? is this normal?
Re: Daycare and Yelling Question
I would feel the same way you do, I think - BUT I feel compelled to say that both of my children have squirmed away from me in a parking lot. I screamed my head off at them at the time and I have to say that each kid only did it ONCE.
I'm not a fan of yelling and screaming, but in a situation that involves a parking lot, closed or not... well, I can see how you'd very quickly lose your cool.
I'm not saying it's right or that you shouldn't be upset or that yelling should be acceptable in a daycare - I'm just confessing how *I* reacted in a similar situation as the teacher.
*always remembering Annaleigh Lucy*
I'm not into the yelling thing when I'm parenting. In my daughter's school if it were one kid in particular, I wouldn't think twice. If it were most of the other kids, I'd be put off.
But I also do agree with lauren, it could've just been a reaction, you know that panic reaction that you don't even think about, it just happens?
This pretty much sums up my response though a single yelling experience wasn't enough to get M to not run.
I generally give daycare teachers the benefit of the doubt. It's really hard to deal with a stubborn, not listening child when you are out numbered. It's good that you voiced your concern but if it's only the one incident don't let it ruin your opinion of the teacher/school.
all kids could get hit by cars. G total shuts down if she hears anyone yelling so it's not effective w/her.
I agree with Amy...if my kids breakaway in a closed parking lot or not I would want the teacher to yell and scare them into not doing it again.
Ryan pulled away from me yesterday in a parking lot and I screamed..not sure how anyone wouldn't in that situation
What was the teacher yelling? How long did it last? if it was under 5 seconds and was like "Never let go of the rope, that was dangerous, blah blah" then i'd say she was just scared and freaked. If she was like "You twit, what is wrong with you" and like, emotionally damaging things- i'd raise hell and try to let the parent of the kid know.
I've been that teacher who is stressed beyond belief with a problem child who does something like that.... and it is HARD. So if this is indeed the situation- i'd give it a pass.
BUT - i would keep my eyes/ears open to make sure you don't hear anything like that again.
That is an extreme situation- so I would give the teacher the benefit of the doubt for sure... now if i heard a teacher just yelling in a classroom - that is NOT acceptable for any reason - esp in daycare with young children.... but a kid running off and being in danger like that?? eh - i'd cut her a break.
but again- just keep an eye out... and check your gut feeling.