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Re: Terrific Tuesday Randoms
No problem. My parents felt compelled to adopt a special needs child. That's where it all started.
She does write letters sometimes, but not nearly as often as she did when she was younger. My parents have to be careful not to disclose their address- something about her birth family coming to America and demanding money. Like, whatever my parents have should be shared with my sister's birth family. I'm not sure. It's very strange.
It really wasn't that weird for me. I was 15 when she was adopted, and was in prime teen time. I don't remember any time where it was strange. My younger brother had a hard time with it, not being the youngest anymore. He was 12 years old, but still felt the need to be noticed and would act out and constantly tease and and antagonize her (when she was a little older and settled). I think that surprised my parents the most. My older brother was mostly worried about being kept up at night and changing dirty diapers in the beginning. Haha. It wasn't really an issue though.
My parents had been trying to adopt another little boy before my sister who had a condition where his organs were outside of his body when he was born, but he died 2 weeks before my parents were to pick him up. He as 8 months old. Our family was already prepped at that time for an infant coming into our family. My parents were a wreck over it. After that an adoption agency contacted my parents about my sister. I want to say that it was a few short weeks after the little boy died. It went fairly quickly after that.
It was difficult in the beginning because obviously my sister had just been taken from her home and brought to a strange new country with strange people. She adjusted quickly though. The hardest thing was getting her to eat new foods, and communication. She had to be on a lot of vitamin suppliments in the beginning, too for malnutrition. She was fed fine in Africa, but with only eating rice, she was lacking a lot of essential nutrients in her diet.
It was very easy for us to accept her into our family, even our extended family. Everyone loved her as if she had been born in.
Wow that was really long and kind of rambly. Sorry.
Thanks for the rec Wop. And thank you to your family for apoding her! B and I talk about adopting later on. If so, I hope we can be as much of a blessing to that child as your family is to your sister.
That commercial- wow. He should be ashamed.
Wop: what a great story. Sometimes I wonder if DH and I would be able to do that but then again just getting through SS teens years may kill us all. If we make it we may just run away to a private island. I must say I admire your parents.
Charlity: Are you going to pay in to fed or state. I've done a couple "free" calculators and it has made me feel better.
Pete Hokestra: Well I do kind of expect a little better from him. I get the context of the ad and all. Maybe it was for a bit shock value. I can't say I'm for Debbie but I'm not sure I'm against it.
Star: YEAH!! for Noah steps.
I couldn't get to sleep last night. I tried reading, relaxing music and go no where. I think it was about 1:30ish before I was finally out. We had another fun round of "I'm a teenager and parents just don't understand" last night. We can not get it through this boys head that he needs to be doing school work at home. Even if there is no assigned work reviewing would be helpful. With how things are going I'm afraid he will stuck in 9th grade again next year.
Maybe that's what he needs? From what you share, he doesn't seem to think there will be any consequences to his action (non-action?) right now. I'm really sorry, Deerer. You're in a tough spot, for sure.
Ditto this. Physicians don't know if there's an issue with their staff unless you tell them. I once left a message for an office manager at my OB's office because I was having an issue, and heard back from the Dr. directly that same day. They were genuinely concerned.
I havent had time to sit down and do turbo tax yet or do the calculators. Usually hubby and I do married but file separate. He demands that. On a shameful note, he hasnt filed in 5 years. I keep telling him that he needs to and he doesnt think he needs to. This year I am putting my foot down and pretty much and am going to tell him we need to file jointly.
I am in tears and anxious. If there is something wrong with my car, I am screwed. I have no money whatsoever, living paycheck to paycheck, and my car guy no longer accepts payment plans.
What a special story
I was adopted too but that's a whole different story.
You are SO sweet. Thank you for thinking of me.
And WAY TO GO Noah!!! How exciting!!!
124 beats per minute and a due date of Sept 29th.
That's great!
Yay!!! I am so happy for you guys!! What a relief to see the heartbeat and get a due date.
Yay! Great news!!! Congrats!
Hope your car is OK, or it's a quick easy fix. Do you have any mechanical friends?
When I divorced my first husband I found out he hadn't filed in 3 years. I went to a great tax guy and filed married but filing separately - I filed the past 3 years took all the deductions, got a nice return and bought myself a laptop. He's lazy so I didn't worry about him trying to come back later. Also I stuck him with the $40K consolidation loan his parents had cosigned right before we divorced. Sigh. I had an awesome lawyer.
Charity, car problems SUck, sorry to hear you are having an issue. Do you maybe know anyone who is car smart and could help you out?
Wop I love the story about your sister, my "Aunt" does foster care and has taken in 2 girls from Africa. It is amazing to see that growth in a person. I often wonder if those girls know how much of a blessing that they have been in our lives as well.
Yay for Noah, I can't wait for the Wiggle to take some real steps, and the same time I don't look forward to her being able to get into even more stuff! She is a big scardy cat and wont let go yet!
Agreed. He should be ashamed. Yet, he isn't. He is defending the ad which makes him look even worse. And there is a website to go along with the ad that is even worse than the ad itself.