Question about Twins and Birthdays

valerieann

So if you send one twin (who is your godson) a birthday card, are you always expected to send the other twin one too? And I realize this sounds like a 'duh' question, but my husband has 15 nieces and nephews and we only give cards/gifts to his godchildren. So for instance, the twins also have three other siblings who we don't typically buy gifts for. Obviously if we were actually going to be seing them on their birthday, I would have a gift for each of them, but I just didn't know about the card situation. Oh, and they're turing 6 (if that makes a difference) And hopefully I don't sound like too big of a jerk (ha!) I was just curious what the general consensus was.

scpteam20

Yes, you should send them both a card. I also have a TON of nephews and nieces and I buy the 99 cent hallmark cards (get a hallmark rewards card if you don't have on yet!) and send them all, I spend less than a buck (well, less than 2 after postage) and I put a smile on that person's face. That way everyone gets included and you don't break the bank while doing it.

 

valerieann

Okay. I guess I should have worded that differently since I'd planned on sending them both a card, but if I put money in one, I'm assuming I should do it for both? That's really my dilema, I guess. In the past I've just given him a $50 savings bond (yeah, I'm that Aunt), and I guess last year the sister asked where her "piece of paper was".   

Wilwarin

I think you need to do cards and gifts for both of the twins, but just cards for the sibs. Maybe scale down the gift to $25 each?

For twin moms: Is it typical for twins to have different godparents? That seems strange to me. 

LindsaymR

Wilwarin:

I think you need to do cards and gifts for both of the twins, but just cards for the sibs. Maybe scale down the gift to $25 each?

For twin moms: Is it typical for twins to have different godparents? That seems strange to me. 

I have twin cousins and they each have their own set of godparents (each have a godmother and godfather which is typical in our family).  My mom is the godmother of one of the boys and she only gives gifts to her godson. There are 23 grandchildren on my mom's side (me being the youngest) so she didn't buy a gift or card for every niece and nephew. My aunt who was the godmother to the other twin would sometimes coordinate with my mom on gifts if one of them found a really cool gift idea they would do the same/similar gifts for both boys.

I guess I would expect that if you have twins they would each have their own godparent and I wouldn't expect the godparent to buy the other one a gift. That's kind of how our family does it. We're fortunate that most godparents buy gifts for their godchildren. DH's family on the other hand never does which kinda makes me

Haven1

My twins have the same godmothers (our sisters) and godfather (BIL). They already get them gifts for holiday, but I wouldn't expect any special godparent gift if they didn't. In your situation, it would depend on what the other twin's godparents send. See if you can coordinate so they at least send something. You're right to not want her to feel left out (I'm sure the parents appreciate it), but you were asked to be one kid's godparent. It's at least worth a conversation with the parents to feel it out.

OxAMYxO

I havent even read the other responses so this might have already been said, but OF COURSE.  That would be heartless to send one kid a card and not the other just because they arent his godchild..especially considering cards are $3.

OxAMYxO

Okay now that I've read the rest of the responses (whoops).. With the money situation, can you just give it to the parents without the kids seeing/knowing?

SB&J

I only send a godchild a gift/card, not siblings.

Would have never considered that twins would have the same godparents, interesting. 

valerieann

Thanks for all of the input! I guess I should have been more clear in saying that I always send them both a card (I'm not that heartless . We're actually going to be seeing them in a couple of weeks, so I picked up a couple of those BrainQuest workbooks from Costco for each of them (See, the fun doesn't stop with savings bonds!), and then I'll probably just give my SIL some money on the side for our godson - good idea, Amy.