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It's over~ kinda funny
and I'm not as exctied as I thought I'd be.
My hearing went pretty smoothly, I mean I hardly even had to see him, and my lawyer handled everything. He's paying my medical bills from that night and agreed to my grounds with little argument.
He showed up 20 minutes late with his lawyer - who looks like this dog below-
She followed this up with some attempts to small talk with my lawyer, who stonewalled her, and then asked if he'd gotten her fax on Friday night. (if you recall, his side had not submitted any paperwork since august and had not corresponded with my lawyer at all. An eleventh hour fax? Yeah right.) XH then submitted his bank statement - which was actually a statement from our joint account, from last july, and a handwritten financial affidavit in which he asked to be reimbursed for my birthday present, my mothers day present and - here's the best part - asked to be reimbursed for the wages he lost. When he missed work. While he was in jail. For beating the sht out of me. He wanted me to pay him back for that.
To make the rest of the long story short, my lawyer said no to all that. XH pays my medical bills. XH admitted that his abuse was the reason our marriage ended. It felt nice to sit there and stare him down with his sticky looking gelled head and finally get it over with.
Now... there was no immediate change, but it's starting to set in that I can finally REALLY start over.
Re: It's over~ kinda funny
YAY!!! So glad it is over!
I can
t wait for your trip to Thailand!!
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
I'm so happy for you! I'm glad it went easier than expected.
That's a real winner asking you to pay for his lost wages while he rotted in jail for beating you up.
But yayyy for your divorce!
::throws confetti and fairy dust up everyone's arses::
That just cracked me up!! Congrats on your divorce!!
I cannot even believe he had the nerve to ask you to reimburse him for his lost wages. Gross.
But congratulations!!
Congratulations - I'm glad it went so well for you.
I would say I'm shocked that he asked for his wages, but I think I've lost the ability to be surprised at what abusers will do.
"You don't get to be all puke-face about your kid shooting your undead baby daddy when all you had to do was KEEP HIM IN THE FLUCKING HOUSE, LORI!" - doctorwho
OP I am glad you have your closure. Onward and upward!