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Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Oh Baby Wednesday
Here are some baby questions to get us started...
Working mom vs. the stay at home mom- this isn't meant to be a debate but what YOU plan on doing.
-What are your plans for childcare (mom or dad staying home, daycare, nanny, family, a little of both)?
-Money aside, which would make YOU happier: staying at home or working?
-Does anyone have a husband that wants to stay home?
-For those of you that want to stay at home, how would house work be divided? Would the spouse that stays home be responsible for it all or will it be split 50/50? Do you and your husband agree on this?
-Can you have it all (family and career)?
-Is your job family friendly/oriented? Is there a huge issue if you have to take the day off to take care of a sick kid or take them to appointments? What if little Johnny has a soccer game that would require you to leave a little early? If you don't have kids of your own, think about what you've seen your coworkers deal with.
Some non-baby related questions:
-When was the last time you tried something new?
-Who do you sometimes compare yourself to?
-What's the most sensible thing you've ever heard someone say?
-What gets you excited about life?
-What life lesson did you learn the hard way?
Re: Oh Baby Wednesday
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Jaymi always has the good questions!
Working mom vs. the stay at home mom- this isn't meant to be a debate but what YOU plan on doing.
I don't really know what we will end up doing. I have several friends that work pretty much for day care money so I don't want to be working that hard for something like that. Don't get me wrong, I love my job but being a mom after school is hard work and I have a friend who really misses her time with her little man.
What are your plans for childcare (mom or dad staying home, daycare, nanny, family, a little of both)?
We work out of the home, but we also travel a lot. We live out in the boonies for pretty much one reason... my parents and grandparents and aunt & uncle all live out here, and we have an incredibly close church family. We've never paid for childcare for our two children, and they're almost always with family when we travel. There's simply NO way we could do what we do without family, and I know that's why a lot of photographers quit taking weddings when they start a family.
Money aside, which would make YOU happier: staying at home or working?
Working definitely makes me happier. I was a SAHM for about 6 months once, and I about drove myself batty. Some women are built for it, some aren't. I feel like I have the best of both worlds right now because I get a LOT of time at home with my children, but I also get to work and be out in the world and meet new people all the time.
Is your job family friendly/oriented? Is there a huge issue if you have to take the day off to take care of a sick kid or take them to appointments? What if little Johnny has a soccer game that would require you to leave a little early?
We build our own schedule, but it's not perfect. We book about 5 months in advance, and the school sure as heck doesn't announce programs and recitals that far in advance. We've had to miss two Christmas programs, and we felt AWFUL. Jack doesn't care because we always take him out for a big huge Christmas date to make up for it, but that's definitely something that bothers us. For that reason, we've started taking December pretty much completely off (or as much as possible), to spend as much time doing that family stuff as we can.
When one of the kids is sick and we have a shoot or a wedding, they go to my mom's. It's hard, but she's probably a better nurse than I am, anyway. If it's just going to be an office day and someone's sick, one of us is on nurse duty with them and the other works.
As a teacher, I have come to find this is true and it's still very difficult for me to accept.
I agree that the Mommy wars are ridiculous. I BF'd both my babies and obviously that's what worked best for us, but I don't think anyone's evil or selfish if they go another direction. It's not the 1950s... there's not, like, mercury in formula or anything.
RE: what it's like as a working mom... we actually had the mother of one of our brides tell her she shouldn't hire a photographer who had kids, because there's no way we'd do as good on her pictures. "Moms are always distracted". SERIOUSLY?? I can't do my job as well because I've got kids?? I was furious.
These are great questions! Love seeing the interesting responses!
Working mom vs. the stay at home mom- this isn't meant to be a debate but what YOU plan on doing. I plan on working - but I only work part-time as it is. So I'll technically be a SAHM for 1-2 days a week.
Yes, this is a very good life lesson. It boggles my mind, but is very true.
I skipped this section the first time.
-When was the last time you tried something new? I've been trying some new food lately, but none of it is healthy
Working mom vs. the stay at home mom- this isn't meant to be a debate but what YOU plan on doing.
Staying home was never an option for me. But whenever I am asked what my dream job would be, it is SAHM. I think not being able to stay home was definitely a factor in me not wanting any more children.
-What are your plans for childcare (mom or dad staying home, daycare, nanny, family, a little of both)?
I had an individual watch Melodie until she was 2, then she went to daycare. When she was 10, my mom watched her after school until she was 12. All things considered, I think this worked out perfectly.
-Money aside, which would make YOU happier: staying at home or working? Staying home, hands down.
-Can you have it all (family and career)? I personally don?t think so. I think something will always have to be sacrificed.
-Is your job family friendly/oriented? Is there a huge issue if you have to take the day off to take care of a sick kid or take them to appointments? What if little Johnny has a soccer game that would require you to leave a little early? If you don't have kids of your own, think about what you've seen your coworkers deal with. I would not say my job itself is very family oriented, but luckily I have worked for my bosses for over 12 years and have a great personal relationship with them. When Mel was little and I HAD to leave at 5:00 for daycare pickup, I often got the side eye from some CWs.
Some non-baby related questions:
-When was the last time you tried something new? Last night I tried a new recipe.
-Who do you sometimes compare yourself to? Probably my sister.
-What's the most sensible thing you've ever heard someone say? Do one thing at a time.
-What gets you excited about life? Planning a vacation! Also seeing my daughter reach a milestone.
-What life lesson did you learn the hard way? Debt is tantamount to slavery.
With All the Trimmings
Just do it!
Never write anything down that you don't want read.
LOVE this--best advice ever!
With All the Trimmings
Just do it!
Those that don't have tickers
How old is LO(s)
Jack will be 9 next month. Dorothy will be 2 in April. And they're gorgeous, and I justsohappen to have blogged about them today.
I love this! I feel this way right now and hope I don't feel this way again.
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She turned 18 last week!
With All the Trimmings
Just do it!
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It also goes the other way though. If you say you forgive someone, you can't keep bringing it up and throwing it in their face. I think both people have to move on and try to make the best of it.
Same here! What in the world?!
There is also a very weird post on the photo board. I saw it yesterday and reported it but it's still there.
With All the Trimmings
Just do it!
I love this! I feel this way right now and hope I don't feel this way again.
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I saw a post early this morning on the 1st Tri board regarding the disturbing photos. It just makes me sick.
Honestly, it just makes me that much more nervous to share photos or any type of personal information about myself on here. There are some bad people out there.
Which one?
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Good heavens, how does someone do that? I mean, I am in shock.
Julie, if you go to the Photo and Video board, it's pretty obvious which one it is.
With All the Trimmings
Just do it!
What are your plans for childcare (mom or dad staying home, daycare, nanny, family, a little of both)?
I plan on being a SAHM but if I start to go crazy I'm going back to work.
Money aside, which would make YOU happier: staying at home or working?
Hopefully being a SAHM.
People will only change if they WANT to change.