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Friend with PPD?
My friend has a six week old baby and is suffering some PPD. Her baby is colicky and I think she is having a hard time dealing, but also a hard time asking for help.
She doesn't live here, but I am visiting her next month. When we talk I can tell she is a different person and not enjoying her baby at all. I feel so sad, but I don't know what to say because I don't want to offend her or make things worse. I don't want to say it gets better, because she may feel like 12 weeks so sooooo far away.
For now I am just offering support, telling her no moms like their babies all of the time, that it is nothing she is doing wrong. I want her to know that baby still knows she is loved even if she cries a lot. I just don't want to come across sounding like a know-it-all mom.
Any advice?
Re: Friend with PPD?
Is there a husband you can talk to? PPD sucks major balls. If it weren't for my husband I don't know what I would've done. He's also the one that urged me to get some help.
Do you feel comfortable just saying, "I'm a little worried. You seem so sad. Have you talked to your doctor at all? It's hard, but it doesn't have to be as hard as it is for you right now." Or something along those lines. Maybe she just needs to hear that she's not making it up and that it is just more than the baby blues. If you're her friend she'll know that you're not just being a betch. But, you know her and I don't. I kind of wish someone would've said something to me earlier and that I would've gotten help sooner than 9 months. I just kept thinking, "I knew it would be like this. I knew it would be hard. I can do this. I can do this. If so-and-so can do it, so can I." Turns out I really was crazy and that Lexapro helped me be myself again.
Good luck in whatever you do. Good for you for noticing and being concerned.
I 100% second njh - you can't go without saying something here. You are her friend & she needs support right now. Just let her know you will do anything to help her, and ask her if she would like you to help her arrange an appt. with her Dr.
Good luck, and good for you for being a concerned & considerate friend.
She is seeing a counselor and getting help (don't know if she is on meds or not yet, I know they have talked about it). I know they also called the MIL to come help this week and my friend has been able to catch up on some sleep.
Next time we talk I'll ask about meds. Her husband is awesome support, but I think her being so overwhelmed is wearing on him too.
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Ugh, ppd sucks so bad.