My Mom is Out. Of. Control.

jaime ma famille

I don't know if you remember my previous post about my Mom, but I'm at my wits end. 

My Mom and I haven't talked in weeks, besides two very heated conversations that erupted into arguments.  Originally, she called me to berate me for dating.  She heard rumors and suspected that I was seeing someone, and called to let me know that she didn't approve and wanted me to be alone.  She thought it was inappropriate for me to date.  I told her that whatever I was doing in my personal life is none of her business, and she has no right to judge me - she dated a married man for a whole year after she was divorced!  

So, we went a week and a half without speaking, and she starts telling the whole family everything - talking about me behind my back, basically.  One of the lies she is spreading about me is that I'm keeping the kids from her, which I am not.  She never asked me to see the kids - she wasn't even talking to me!  

So get this - SHE CALLS MY STBX to tell him, "You won't believe what Jaime is doing."  My MOM, the woman who called the police on my STBX, who told me to get a PFA on him, and then chastised me for allowing him to see the kids, is trying to befriend my STBX!!!  She has called him THREE TIMES!  STBX called me and said, "Please tell your Mom to stop calling me, I don't need her wacky drama in my life anymore."  

I called my Mom and blew up at her.  She said, "All of this is your fault, you opened a can of worms with your destructive actions."  WTH!  What destructive actions?  

So, now I have no family, and my Mom has put a rift in what little amicable co-parenting relationship I was starting to establish with STBX.  OH, and my Mom also called my brother, who is deployed with the military in Japan, to tell him how horrible I am, too.

I have the mother of the year.  

CLW102409

I'm so sorry that this drama happened - especially from a mother.  My mother has done stuff like this to me in the past - especially spreading gossip around to family members.  I had to call her out on it at a wake just a few weeks ago.  My uncle had died and when I got to the funeral home, my family wouldn't stop asking me "how my marriage is doing" and "i'm sorry about your circumstance of not being able to have children".   I was in total shock - so of course I took my mother aside and told her that my personal life is none of their business and that I didn't appreciate her airing out my dirty laundry to anyone and it was neither the time nor the place for her to do this - a funeral for christ sake!  I was so embarrassed.  But anyways, she scoffed it off like it was nothing and will continue to talk behind my back.  It's expected from her!