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Hubby and Friends
Hey there haven't posted here much, I am currently 17 weeks pregnant and my DH is spending every moment he can hanging out with his guys ever since we found out. I think he's afraid after the baby comes he won't have time. I go to bed early because I teach aerobic classes at 5 am but he stays up really late. Is this a normal reaction and what should I do? I have told him I'm not dead just pregnant and I want to hang out with friends too but he is always making plans with his friends. we have been married for 5 years and I'm at a loss. Please help! Thank you
Re: Hubby and Friends
Once a week is fine. Not to excess as you've described.
Put your foot down right now and let him know this has to stop -- are you patently sure that he is with friends? If he's out very very late, I wonder strongly if it is indeeda "guy's night out" thing at all.
Yeah, once or twice a week I could see letting slide. If its an everyday out until the morning light situation though a couple of things would concern me: a) how much money is he spending that we could be saving up b) he needs to stop acting like a college kid & grow up quick c) ignoring your pregnant wife is an assholio thing to do d) is he really out with the guys or getting a piece on the side?
You need to say something. He might just be partying while he can, but at the same time it is not a mature or appropriate way to behave when you have to start putting your family's needs ahead of your own. Right now he is being a selfish jerk.
As I say, twice a week for poker with the guys or whatever? No worries but that doesn't sound like what is going on from your post.
How about you make some plans with him?
Was this pregnancy planned?
Are you surprised by this behavior? Honestly? Is it as if he's suddenly had a personality transplant the moment the second line appeared?
Congrats on your pregnancy! I'm 18 weeks pregnant and my DH makes comments about how when the baby comes we won't be able to go out anymore. Not that we're the most social bees now, but seriously, we're not going to be home bound 24-7, 365 days a year once the baby comes. Yes your schedule changes, but babies are portable. Heck, so are toddlers.
I think a lot of guys have two major fears during their partner's pregnancy - money and guy time (maybe add sex in there for a third). They won't have enough of either. DH and I are taking an early pregnancy class at the hospital and the childbirth educator has said these fears are pretty common.
I'd personally have a Come to Jesus talk with my DH if I was telling him I want to hang out, but he keeps scheduling with friends. It's not cool to just ignore your partner when he/she is making a reasonable request. You could also look at counseling to open up the lines of communication.